What do you think of women who let’s say “hate” their in-laws and want their husband to cut off all ties with them, and he does, just for the sake of keeping his marriage…
Why they hate their in-laws isn’t the issue here.
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Cutting off contact with family is very serious and unless the issue was something equally as serious (like any kind of abuse), its not right.
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Churails.
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irrational.
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It's easy enough for Rizla to call these women churails - but what if like Sara said, the in-laws were abusive to the DIL and the kids?
Personally, if I knew before marriage that the in-laws didn't like me, I would walk away from the relationship rather than marry into a family where I'm not welcome. Why walk into a situation where conflict is inevitable and the husband/son is split between two competing relationships.
But, if the couple are married, the only reason to walk away from the parents are extreme cases of abuse (psychological and physical). Otherwise, the wife/DIL owes it to her husband to work at the relationship and at the very least encourage him to maintain a relationship with his family. Yes, the son should make clear that he will not tolerate his parents making disparaging remarks about his wife and children and his parents need to respect that.
On the other hand, the same applies to his wife. If his wife is the churail Rizla describes, who without any reason is trying to separate her husband from his parents, the husband needs to speak up and be a man about it. Why give in to a petty woman who makes unreasonable demands. Then the wife has to decide, is the marriage more important or her jhooti ana and zid. If she doesn't act rationally, then the husband should consider walking away from her.
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well if hubby does it, who are we to say anything. :P
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well if hubby does it, who are we to say anything. :P
Ohhh, how shweet! like oh.my.gosh.
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Women who make their husbands sever all ties from their parents are not doing the right thing and it ends up coming back to haunt them anyway later on in life.
If the inlaws are abusive, she should distance herself immediately from them but not stop her husband from seeing his parents.
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Why they hate their in-laws isn't the issue here.
But why they hate their in-laws is relevant to the question. Their reasons would affect what I think of them.
That being said, in most cases, I wouldn't think too well of such women.
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Such woman are otherwise normal/average desi women…just that they succeed in what they wanted unlike others who failed at making this happen…
and as far as i remember…its their islamic right too 
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I believe that a man capable of cutting off from immediate family(father mom siblings) for a wife, is also capable of cutting off from his wife for another woman/any other reason. This applies both ways. Shows the value of family in a person or lack thereof
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^Question was “what do you think about those women”…aap ne direct hi banday pe comment kar dia
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nomi when ur posting sarcastic comment please remember to at least make it accurate no one has ever said it is the womens islamic right to have her husband cut off all ties from his family…asking for an independent house and cutting off ties from his family are two separate things…
my mom got married and left her parents to be with her husband does that mean she cut off all ties with her parents? no she did not and the same goes for a guy …all my bros live independently does that mean they cut off all ties with my parents? no they still call they still visit my parents still visit
islamic right for independent house versus having hubby cut off all ties with his family…one of these is inherently irrational and morally wrong…
there is a big difference between the islamic right of a woman to have an independent place after marriage and asking her hubby to cut off all ties with his family altogether…please dont mix the two up …the two are not one and the same …
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My dad always used to say, if a man cuts ties with his family because of his wife, the real reason is that he ALSO wanted it since a person would only do anything which he himself wants to do. Such men use their wives as an excuse to cut off ties with their families as no wife is strong enough to force her husband not to meet his mom, dad and siblings. A wife can decide not to see her in-laws but she can't force her husband and the husbands have liberty to see his family IF he wants to. I know few men who see their families without the knowledge of their wives. So we cannot put ALL the blame on the wives. But still, such wives should think of their parents and what would they feel if their bhabis would do the same with their brothers. I don't understand how could a woman think differently for her in-laws and her own family at the same time.
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@llxxll … it sure is the start towards that…builds up gradually …some are able to make it all the way (total cut off) some can make it to half way (moving away, minimal interaction)…its a continuum…
P.S… making a call every few weeks/months…and no involvement otherwise…is that ‘‘keeping the ties’’??
(nothing personal, just asking a general question)
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perhaps in some extreme cases you may be right… but in general i would disagree with this viewpoint
if you keep in touch regularly …and if u wud be there for them if they really needed you…
yes that is keeping ties just the same as married women do
as i said above, i disagree that an independent house leads to total or half cut off … would u say the same for married women that they are in a house independent of their parents therefore they are not keeping ties or eventually would totally/half way get cut off from their parents? no you wouldnt not for the general population maybe certain extreme cases
i think to equate wanting an independent house with cutting off ties is both extreme and highly cynical
while, i maintain that the in laws are not the enemies of the bahus, i would also maintain that bahus are not enemies of their in laws
its a very misunderstood relationship with some interesting dynamics but your views on the bahus who want independent homes seem to me to be just as cynical as the views of bahus who think their MILs/SILs/ILs are out to get them
tussi apni opinion dassti te main apni dassti 
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such women should only remember that if a guy can cut-off from his parents for her, he can kick her out for someone else too...
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Allah bus sab ko aisi females say bachai :)