Since you all are putting up your problems over here for comments …so I thought why should I stay behind………..
Now what is my problem…..let me sing it for you:
Meray dostoan mujhay ajj kal nah to chain hay nah karar hay
Mera sirf itna kasoor hay mujhay eak LARKAY say pyar hay
Tumhain dil ka haal sunaoan kaya
Who hay koan tum ko bataoan kaya
Meri arzoo ka woh geet hay
Meri dharkanaon ki woh pukar hay
Kabhee sochati hoan woh door hay
Kabhi sochati hoan woh pass hay
Mujhay halka halka sa hoash hay
Mujhay halka halk khumar hay
Meray dostoan mujhay ajj kal nah to chain hay nah karar hay
Mera sirf itna kasoor hay mujhay eak LARKAY say pyar hay
So guys tell me what should I do…..he is not aware of my feelings for him…….it is a very serious problem…..meray din raat ka chain kharab ho gaya hay……
PLEASE HELP!!!
Sharmelee !!!
Sharmelee-Bano
[This message has been edited by Sharmelee (edited February 17, 1999).]
ASSALAMUALAIKUM,
I had read your poem.It is
really amaizing.If you love some one then be
proud and tell him that you love him.I think
he will have same feelings for you as you
have for him.MAY GOD HELP YOU...............
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KHUDA HAFIZ.
dear shermilee,
A.A.
i read ur poem that was realy very good and i hope that in future u 'll continue this type of try and on this i asure u that u 'll be very good poet , I am not in Pkistan but i am in N. Cyprus nad over here i am making my MBA ,It is realy very delightful that when we read anything from or about pakistan, We LOVE PKISTAN very much ,
If i am not wrong then u 'll not any gril because sometimes we also do this type of "SHRARET"
UR'S TRUELY.
S.H.BUKHARI.
TANVEER JEE: app nay kabhi muhubaat ki hay….janab kisi ko apni feelings kay baray main batana itna aasan nahin hay….the other thing is that we are family friends…..and what happen if he doesn't have the same feelings for me. May be he doesn't feel that way about me….but how should I convince myself?????
PG HAZOOR: you are right the quality of my feelings is far better then this poetry……
Lekin app to kah rahay hain shadee nah karo…array hum app jesay nahin kah mohubaat kisi aur say aur shadee kisi aur say…..zarah ghoar kijiay.
HASSAN DEAR: hum 100% larki hain….humaree yahan jaan per banee hay aur app ko mazaq sooj raha hay. I can't afford to crack a joke concerning such serious issue about my life. Aur jee humain shair bananay ka shoak nahin tha…bus un kee mohabat main bun bethay
AARZ KIYA HAY:
App say gilah app ki qasam
sochatay rahay kar sakay nah hum
uss ki kya khata la dawa hay ghum
kiyoan gilah karain charah gar say hum
yah agar nahin yaar ki gali
chaltay chaltay kiyoan ruk gay kadam
Humain poetry main mustaqbil nahin chahiay……….
App ko zarah bhee humdardee nahin hum say……….
Kuch aur nahin kar saktay to Duwa he kardain……..
App kay comments parh kar yah kahnay ko jee cahta hay:
SUCH HEE HAY BEKAR HUMAIN GHAUM HOTA HAY
JO CHAHA THA DUNIYA MAIN KUM HOTA HAY
DHALTA SOORAJ, PHELA JANGAL, RASTAH GUUM
HUM SAY POCHO KESA AALUM HOTA HAY
DARD TO HUMNAY IN ANKHOAN SAY DEKHAY HAIN
SUNTAY HAIN KAH MARHUM HOTA HAY
Is there any way I can just forget about him………???????
You problem is quite complicated………..
BTW who told you to fall in love with such a man who doesn't have any feelings for you.
Dear life is going to become complicated that way. May be he is not good for you. Love that person who has the capability of loving you back., as you'll get tired of such a person who is just like a stone after some time.
I am sorry I read your poem (if you call it a poem) a little late.
My first response was like
Mera ye haal dekha to zamana mujh se ye kahne laga
Tumhe chaaye koi elaje ab , ke tumhe halka halka Bukhar he
Sharmeeli Ji
Jin ko Muhabbat hoti he wo sare aam us ka shuhra nahi kerte phirte.
Muhabbat to beawaz hoti he, is ki Khsboo mahssos ki ja sakti he magar is ko aap choo nahi sakte.
Chaloo aaj etna he kaffee he
Dear Sharmelee, I have all the humdardee about you. Have been through these idiotic situations in life and have written poems too. Just wanted you to check if you are not running on a blocked and closed road. Bye and good luck.
Humain bhee koie apna ishtahar banay ka shoak nahin hay……….
I visited this site and found out some wise people are here….so thought to say some thing.
No body knows who am I and who that person is. Janab Buzdil to who loag hotain hain jin main yah kabool karnay kee himaat nahin hotee kah who kisi to chatay hain.
I don't believe in idealism but I have always this image of a person in my mind…and when after such a long time when I happen to come across such a person…..every thing has become so difficult.
Yah mantay hain hum kah muhabbat eak kushboo hay lekin yah kushboo app ki jaan bhee lay saktee hay.
Yah mantay hain hum kah mohabat to chowa nahin ja sakta per mahsoos to kar saktay hain.
Janab kisi ko Dil say nikalna itna aasaan nahin hota……..
Aur hum app jesay Bahadur to hain nahin kah Yadoan kay saharay zindagee guzar dain…..
HUM PEHLEE DAFAH YAHAN AAIN HAIN…AGAR APP KO HUMARA AANA BURA LAGA HAY TO AAINDAH NAHIN AAIN GAY.
……….Dewarooan say batain karna accha lagta hay
Hum bhee pagal ho jian gay essa lagta hay
Kis ko Qasar pthar maro koan paraya hay
Sheesh mehal main ek ek chahrah apna lag ta hay
Nahi nahi
Chasme-ma roshan
Dil-e- mashad
aap shoq se ayeye. Ye sub hamar, hum sub ki mahfil he. yehan koi na ajnabi he or na koi mahman.
I am terribly sorry if I said some thing wrong.
I thought that you are just kidding.
Who can understand a love better than me . I can very well feel your sentiments now.
If you are in " true love" then go ahead don't ask any body, JUMP in this fire. Don't think twice and don't think about the result. The love is war in which there is no defeat.
If you loss the battle or win it, You will win the war either way
Let me quote you a very beautiful shere from a beautiful shaier Faiz ahmed Faiz, just to make you feel better.
Gur baazi ishq ki baazi he, jo chaho laga do der kesa
Gur jeet gaye to kiya kehna, hare bhi to baazi maat nahi
[This message has been edited by Fatah (edited February 17, 1999).]
I can guarantee you that my love is "true love"……….this what I used to think that true love can change every thing….but nothing seems to be happening on the other end….
Zindagee main eak hee bandah accha laga aur who bhee……….Allah Mian essa kiyoan karta hay…..
Jub humain woh cheez mil nahin saktee to uss kay kareeb kiyoan lata hay.
I haven't given up hope…though Fatah I can never dare to tell him how I feel…iss liay kah:
"Yah mohabat bhee ajeeb cheez hay…….jahan iqrar kee puree umeed ho Dil wahan Bhee kahnay say darta hay…..aur mujhay to inkar ka pura yaqeen hay"…..abb app he batain main kaya karooan….
Just relying on God……
I tried very hard not to think about him….and try to like some one else…..there are people around me who are willing to put their heart on my feet…..but NAZRAIN JAHAN TAHREE HAIN WAHAN SAY HILNAY KA NAM NAHIN LATAIN……………
……..Ghalib kahtay hain……
Aah ko chahiay ek umar aasar honay tak
Koan jee ta teri zulff kay sar honay tak
Aashaqee sabar talaq aur tamana deta
Dil ka kya rang karon khoonay jigar honay tak
Gumay hastee ka ho "ASAD" kis say juz-margay ailaj
shumah jalti hay her rang main sahar honay tak
Sharmelee-Bano
[This message has been edited by Sharmelee (edited February 17, 1999).]
sharmelee
wellthe first question would be .. wehn yout hink of this person do you think of him or think of him as a father to your kids..
anywyas, if your alrady friendly with him tehn the ebst way is to get to know him better by becoming a better friend. if you cant do this, then you need soemoen else to find out about him.. i mean like relaly find out about him... if you still like the person, then you can either just confront him.. which is really hard or ask somone else to hint about you or try soem otehr subtle way... or if it is possible simply ask your family to go meet his family and see what happens.. if even this is not possible then it might be easier for yout o get someone else to hint to your family taht you truely love this guy..
of course not knowing exactly what the setup is , its hard to give advice.. anyway, thats my penny's worth
hope it helps you in your search for answers
its few who have the luck of falling turely in love and even fewer who actaully get to a happy ending.. all we can hope for is that we are amongst the few :)
Sharmelee do you have any brothers or sisters? It might help if you discussed it with them. One thing you should decide for yourself. Would you be able to spend the rest of your life with this guy? If so perhaps you can indirectly (using your talent in poetry) try to find out what he thinks. Try to work out what his body language is telling you. Perhaps you can drop a hint to your mum. After all she is probably the best person to understand the situation as she (most likely) knows the boy as well (and his family). I wouldnt recommend discussing this with your cousins. My fiancee discussed her interest in me with lots of her cousins and now they think its a joke and upset her. Its a complex issue you have here.
Thanks to you all for your suggestions…I hope some thing workout soon….as I am also getting tired of this situation which is leading me no where……..I am not taking anyone else into consideration.
Hmcq….….ARRAY KAYA HO GAYA HAY APP KO…I haven't got married yet and you started talking about kids…….no I don't see him as a father of my kids…I am not one of those girls who judge a person by his wealth or the amount of security they can have by being his wife……I am a person who believes in my capabilities. He is a man who has both negative and positive points….I like him for his certain characteristics which I really appreciate in a man….I like him as whole without ant addition and subtraction. There is so much hidden inside him, which I like.
Yazoo…….thanks for your concern too…yes I do have brothers and sisters but it is not appropriate to talk to them…as I am the one who has to live my life with that person…they may analyze him from a different angel. Yah! You are right in saying that I should given him some hint…but that is one area I am really bad at….and this is my first time and I think last one too as it is not easy to be in love with someone. I don't have any problem in communicating with my parents but the problem is that what should I tell them….as there is no sign of interest from his side…..it is just so difficult being an Eastern girl. If we express our selves to someone they'll think we are so bold and blunt. Yah! you are right in saying that these thing should not be discussed with relatives, as they just need a light to create a fire…
I personally think that now the matter is in the God's hands…He knows what is best for me……..
Aakhiar main eak sheyr aarz karti chaloan………
Muhabaat main nahin hay farq jinay aur marnay mian
U`see ko dekah kar jeetay hain jis kafir pah dum niklay [Ghalib]
Hum jeesay gunguna nahin saktay
Waqat nay eassa geet kiyoan gaya
Tum ko dekha to yah khial aaya
Zindagee dhoop tum ghana sa`yaa
If you love someone set them free, if they come back they are yours and if they dont they never were yours.
If you love someone set them free, if they come back they are yours and if they dont then hunt the dude down and kill'em.
On a more serious note:
Does this individual know that you exist, if not then you gotta let him know that you exist. If you dont let him know then you will always regret not telling him about your feelings. Maybe he fears the same things that you do. At all levels of your serious conversations with him, never show your desperation no matter how desperate you are, because your eagerness on gettin down with him might lead him not to respect you.
Sharmelee. How often do you see this guy or speak to him? Believe me, judging by the way you feel right now about him, I think he probably knows or has a rough idea. When my fiancee had this thing for me it was quite obvious. Certain gestures or the way she spoke/laughed gave the "tell tale signs". Remember one thing. He is probably doing what I did - as in trying to be neutral. How long has it been with you? I would give it some time (I know it sounds easy to say) if you see him often, he might drop you a hint. Watch for this as blokes will try to hide it or make excuse for certain things they say. I remember saying something which over stepped the line a little.
By the way this all occured in Pakistan. I have lived here in the UK since i was born. My fiancee lives in Pakistan.