Really this is a serious inquiry. With the exemption of married ones, do you ladies think about anything other than
boyfriends, proposals, getting married and what not. A big
chunk of you lives in Europe or North America and with all
the resources at your disposal, can’t you guys do something
worthwhile with you life while you wait for the right person
and the right time. Subsequently, you always talk about what
you guys want, how about what you guys have to offer to guys.
Afterall, what you set out is what you’ll get in return. Honesty is the
key here.
I hate to brings this to ya :p
but we have female engineers, doctors, designers and 80 % EXEMPT a few married ones are students :p here at gs :p
So I think they ARE doing something usefull next to gupshup :D
Re: Kisses, boyfriends, weddings, rishtas, requirements and such
[QUOTE]
Originally posted by Aalhan: *
**Really this is a serious inquiry. With the exemption of married ones, do you ladies think about anything other than
boyfriends, proposals, getting married and what not. A big
chunk of you lives in Europe or North America and with all
the resources at your disposal, can't you guys do something
worthwhile with you life while you wait for the right person
and the right time. Subsequently, you always talk about what
you guys want, how about what you guys have to offer to guys.
Afterall, what you set out is what you'll get in return. Honesty is the
key here.*
[/QUOTE]
lets talk abt ppl reading these posts. whats the wrothwhile stuff u be doing lately besides. the chaar diwari shackling u too?
Dude...a lot of us are working women, and sucessful at what we do too...some of us even have PhDs...so what if we wanna talk about marriage and boyfriends...talking abut work and such is all boring..we're doin it everday :p
I think it has to do with the fact that people like to discuss things here that are personal and wouldn't feel comfortable talking about it to someone in real life.
And if you are in this part of the forum (Life 1), then these topics you mentioned are related to what should be discussed here.
Yeah if we wanted to talk about career we'd do it in career and academics
^Lk i have never seen u there. whats with the we, soundsso skoolish
GHulail I haven't seen anybody there much...btw I DO have a thread there for you kind information :p
**I wasn't talking about career-life. How
about doing something else, in addition to career,
maybe something creative. How about painting or sewing
or that other feminine stuff women used to do back in the day.
Seriously these threads after threads after threads about
either male-bashing or desperate cries for the absence of
men in their lives remind me of that song, "jab say hum hoay
javaN, janay kho gayeeN kahaN."
Do women realize how desperate and pathetic they sound
when all they talk about is men men and men.
And I'm sure there are tons of unmarried guys on here. Why
aren't these guys and women hooking up if they are having
trouble finding someone in real life. **
We have tons more to think about ty very much.:o
What makes you think we don't have hobbies? Just cause we don't announce it on GS it means we do nothing other than sit and dream about husbands, marriage and babies? So much for GS being a place where we can come and 'vent' when we are upset.
Honestly, I'm so bloody sick of this place and the judgmental people here. You say one thing (yes, talking about men) and you get bashed galore. "How dare you open your mouth!!!!" Well with this kind of judgmental attitude, why the hell is anybody going to announce any other interests they have???? Do you ever venture in the Culture forum? There are plenty of threads in there about books that are read by these "desperate" women. Last I checked, reading was indeed a hobby. Do you not see those threads on working out and staying fit? Does that no qualify as a hobby either? Do you not see girls posting pictures of their artwork? There's another hobby for you!
Go into Shor Sharaba and there are other threads too. Unfortunately, the threads on foreign films and international music seem to be buried here for some reason. Hmmm, I guess the Bollywood brigade may be a tad bit more popular.
Let's not forget, there is always a risk of having a fatwa or two thrown at you for having an hobby which isn't popular.
^ u go girl! :k:
b/w Alhan, most of us do have lives… but marriage, finding a guy and bla bla seem to be the most common topics amongst desis in general.. hence thats why they’re discussed
go on, if u have other suggestions for us, do tell us 
lets say something like “now how do i get that loop around the other needle!” thread.. that should be interesting!
***What makes you think we don't have hobbies? Just cause we don't announce it on GS it means we do nothing other than sit and dream about husbands, marriage and babies? So much for GS being a place where we can come and 'vent' when we are upset.
*
Do announce. It would be nice to see something more
creative and positive other than male-bashing threads all
the time, or tips on how to hook up. I don't think that gupshup
should be viewed as and converted into a 'venting' forum.
It's ok to be upset, and to express it.
But when a person 'vents' (bashing) instead of expressing
(discussing it and what better can come out of it), it takes
away from the discussion. Gupshup shouldn't be a wrestling
rink or yelling room, where one can go everytime they can't
direct their anger at the right source.
*Do you ever venture in the Culture forum? There are plenty of threads in there about books that are read by these "desperate" women. Last I checked, reading was indeed a hobby. Do you not see those threads on working out and staying fit? Does that no qualify as a hobby either? Do you not see girls posting pictures of their artwork? There's another hobby for you!
*
I never said "all women never read or draw." I do
browse through variety of forums including culture and others.
Ironically, the ones who start out intellectual discussions such
as discussing books, or take the time to share their drawings,
with the exception of maybe one or two, are usually the ones who
aren't desperate and most often have better things to discuss
then just men. Apparently however, that doesn't speak
for the remaining big in number majority who does lead the
bashing and nothing-else-to-talk-about-other-than-marriage
threads in life. Trust me there are other relationships and
aspects of life out there which can be discussed as intensely as
hooking up or ways to hook up are discussed. Did you happen
to see X_Communist's thread about the spread of rabies and
the cost of the preventive shots? That's an aspect of life. And
a productive discussion she led. I'm sure she was 'upset' seeing
those children dying, but she didn't come here and bash every
single male for their lack of participation in Pakistani economy
or health area. She led a discussion. Trust me there are many
more topics we can all learn from other than I-can't-find-a-husband-
help-me-understand-why. **
your fighting an uphill battle 
interesting 
is this a female bashing thread?
Because ramadan is starting in a few days, and after that, we're all on lockdown. I dont know about you people, but I'm trying to get it out of my system.
:D
Right girls, put on your intellectual/‘let’s play smart’ hats. If you don’t have any, please steal some ideas from the oh-so-intelligent male guppies here who tend to post intelligent, informative and worldly threads.
Sadzzz, please don’t open any more threads questioning Pakistani culture, Pakistani men and your (and many others) horribles experiences when it comes to meeting guys and rishtas. Guys like Aalhan are sick of it and cannot understand where you/we are coming from. I’m taking his ‘kind advice’ to. :k:
Word to the moderators, perhaps when one of us opens a thread about books, places we’ve travelled, different world issues (yes, many of us girls DO open these threads), maybe you can make it a sticky so Aalhan can see it. I think he’s getting overwhelmed by the marriage based threads.
^ Good God woman, don't give into the enemy so swiftly. Someone throw some cold water on her face. Revive, my lady! On with the battle!
it's all about sarcasm :p
i'll try my best mehnaz... but im itching to put up two more threads about my recent exerpiences!!! aaaaaaaaagh how do i hold back!!