Is this secret (undisclosed marriages) an eastern phenomenon?
West, where polygamy is just like a crime and white marriages are a norm, might not see this phenomenon on a large scale today, but there might have been some random instances.
In East, normally second marriage is kept in secret as second marriage is still unacceptable thing, although it got legal backing (after fulfilling some requirements like permission from first wife).
What are other reasons that marriages are kept secret in East?
From my observation,I have found a very interesting thing.That is monetary factors.I have an example to share.I have come across a case where a Hindu guy (not a Sindhi) who was already married was in dire need of money.What he did was to advertise on a `shaadi portal',hiding his real details and got married to a cougar.This guy keeps both happy and both do not know the fact that he is already married.His financial problems got solved almost overnight.
Another reason is sexual dissatisfication.If the first partner is not satisfying,then there is a `look out' for the second one.
One my closest friend ,who happens to be a Muslim,has an affair in which he has a girl child.This relationship has been going on for a very long time,though they both are not officially married.Then my friend got married officially to another girl in 2008,in which he has got a baby boy.Now the interesting is that the official wife got a hint of the relationship when an id card' in her name was sent to his name by postal.My friend had forgotten to tip the postal man and it was delivered at his home and his wife started bombarding him with questions.But somehow he evaded all those volley of questions but she is still suspicious.The only thing is that she does not have proper evidence to catch him.When she confronted him with questions related to that id card’ (the id belonged to his first lover and in the place of husband ,his name was given)he said the id belonged to his friend’s wife and his friend has the same name of his blah blah.It created,anyway a huge hungama for him.
about the bold part, still unacceptable?. do you mean to say its becoming or likely to become increasingly acceptable in future? i think its the other way around, it was more acceptable before and now becoming rare.
and by the way, there is no such thing as permission from first wife. its not a requirement legally or islamicaly.
why they are kept secret? lack of spine. also dishonesty. not wanting to share inheritance.
about the bold part, still unacceptable?. do you mean to say its becoming or likely to become increasingly acceptable in future? i think its the other way around, it was more acceptable before and now becoming rare.
and by the way, there is no such thing as permission from first wife. its not a requirement legally or islamicaly.
why they are kept secret? lack of spine. also dishonesty. not wanting to share inheritance.
still unacceptable means that inspite of no legal restrictions, people keep their legal marriages secret. I do agree that in past acceptability ratio was high and its more acceptable in tribal / rural set-ups than urban areas. Probably, men are afraid of cheating independent ladies.
zalim samaj wajah ban jata hai . . .ya kisi ik fareeq ki neyat he nahi hote rishtay ko nibhanay ki. . .
and still such relationships exist. It definitely create a vibe of mistrust on male's part, but ladies (their families) still opt for such relationships.
mard k daway aisay hotay hain k pahar hill jain to larke or us ki family jin k pas baz oqat koi choice he nahi hote ..khas tor par agar divorced ya widow ho ,un ko aytabar karna parta hai. . .
mard k daway aisay hotay hain k pahar hill jain to larke or us ki family jin k pas baz oqat koi choice he nahi hote ..khas tor par agar divorced ya widow ho ,un ko aytabar karna parta hai. . .
Khul kar batain... apnay ird gird kay main majood halat o waqiat ki roshini main daleel dey kar sabit karain...
There is a huge surge and increase in second marriages / Islamic marriages and co-wives in the UK.... The growing trend is very worrying. Many guys are going abroad also to countries such a Morocco to get a second and third wife.
But why do people hide such relationships? Do they think that they will be able to keep it secret for all their lives?
It is because it is considered taboo and if at all a second marriage has to be done,there has to be valid reasons.Under no circumstances,a person will be granted the permission for a second marriage on the basis of a secret affair.
