conventional love marriages are not really that big a thing…maan baap koa damkha loa… its really arranged in the end..
i want to know abt eloped couples…everything u know, joa bhi suna hoa, kahin sai bhi suna hoa, joa bhi dimagh nai socha hoa, jo ho sakta hoa, jao nahi ho sakta hoa..
who does it..how do they do it…at which age do they do it…how do u manage it…does it work out..
and most importantly, what stops u from doing it..
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kya irada hai ghulli :-|
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can you speak english cause I can understand you?
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lolz.. can i make up a story?
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^sure suroor…i said jho bhi dimagh nai socha hoa…
majestic, i mean elopement…u knw when boy girl go make cottage in the jungle…
wannabe, iradai koi nahin, bas kuch motivation ki zaroorat hai…
queen sahiba, i know i’ll have a lot of trouble even getting “joa dimagh nai socha hoa” from u …toa why dont u give me the “barai log kehtai hain” bit…
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Larrki ke wali se ijaazat liyay beghair kiya huwa “nikaah” zina kehlaata hai.
Jis larrki ko apne waalideyn, mazhab or ma’aashrey ki fikar nahein hogi woh shohar se kiya khaak wafaa nibhaaey gi?
Aisay chaal chalan waali larrkian piyaar ke qaabil nahein, yeh sirf aur sirf hawas ki aag bhujaaney ke liyey hoti hain.
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^if only all men were ch(kh)ach(ssh)-i…
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ooh gun point par bhi to shadi hoti hai .. zabardasti wali shadi.
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no no no.....us ka bahana baad mai karaingai.....till then lets talk abt razamandi wali shaadi...
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Aap ko koi takleef? Hamey apne Chhachhi honay pe naaz hai.
We can afford to be picky because we’re so sexy with our fair skin and stout built.
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^uff these 19-yr-olds....har baat main, har topic pai, har mood mai, har mausam mai.......har cheez ka jawab hai 'fair skin'......and then we like to call it "waleydain, mazhab and muashira"...
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Actually I’m 18.
Mazaak kar raha tha, I don’t mind dark skin.
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^ihsan hai aap ka, u dont 'mind' dark skin....
waisai i dont quite get this logic ---> Jis larrki ko apne waalideyn, mazhab or ma’aashrey ki fikar nahein hogi woh shohar se kiya khaak wafaa nibhaaey gi?
wafa kisi bandish ki muhtaaj nahi......insan koa bas apnai aap par bharosa hona chaihyai...na kai fair skin (read walidain, muashira and mazhib) par...:p
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If u aren't faithful to your parents, u could never be to your spouse. It will always end up in a worst manner and trust me for whom u'll take this selfish step he'll be the first one to make u realize this thing.
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That's a tad harsh Juni. Sometimes there isn't any other alternative......or there is but you can't opt for that either.
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arey arey sab nai hamai barai logoun ka title kab sai day diya.Wasay bhi hum nai tau vo he kehna hai jau kehna chahain ghai. 
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ouch!
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whoa whoa whoa! wait a second! I read a few comments where girls are said to be dishonest because they are not loyal to their parents. What? how can you even compare the two - parents and the spouse? Parents and spouse hold two different status in one's life. I have heard of stories where a girl eloped with a guy and went on living happily ever after.
As for Ghulail's question, I think for the most part it has to do with family disputes and patience. Couples elope because their families can't accept the truth. Young guys and girls would rather learn from the experience than wait to hear out their parents' lectures and advices.
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I know of three people who have had secret marriage/nikkah.
Eloped and got married. Larki's parents weren't okay with it. Had to choose between hubby and parents, so she chose parents and that was the end.
Got married while living at home with parents (larka at his place, larki at hers). Religious themselves, but parents weren't so much. They got the nikkah done and informed parents. I believe both sides were extremely upset, but I think the girl was pregnant (or may be she wasn't), so they sort of compromised or something of that nature and it's working out well so far, masha'Allah.
A born Muslim and a convert Muslim got married, but they are still living at home with their parents and their marriage is still a secret. They will try to speak to parents to get them married (not informing them that they already are). If it doesn't work out, then they will announce it I believe.
I totally agree with Ranjhan. There's no marriage without larki's wali.
Overall, I feel secret nikkahs/marriages are becoming more common these days.