diwana
September 18, 2013, 12:28am
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Re: Khatar Patar in the kitchen for what?
As Madz124 said, the hostess might not be a morning person. Or it’s possible the hosts think you are not a morning person so they may serve the breakfast a bit late so that you can maximize your sleep. Or the hostess might first be preparing something for the lunch/dinner, hence the noise in the kitchen, which is most likely unintentional.
Also as suggested above, just pack some snacks to discreetly eat them in your room in case you feel peckish. And try to take the hosts out for lunch/dinner or bring take-away from a nice restaurant so that they don’t feel too burdened with the additional workload of catering to you. Also, of course, you must already know to bring at least a good cake/a nice box of something like Godiva/Lindt chocolates etc. for the hosts whenever you go visit them.
Personally though, unless it’s my parents’ home, I don’t like frequent overnight stays at other people’s homes, and prefer staying at a hotel/motel. I know some very close family members might get a bit offended if they learn that you are not staying with them. But the way to get around that is, if possible, to not let them know that you are visiting their city so that they don’t feel snubbed because of your staying in a hotel.
I agree.
Just to clarify, I do not stay or visit them frequently only occasionally when I used to have more time maybe once in 6 months . Now its about once a year.
They are like aunty and uncle to me and only relatives in that city. They keep calling and leaving messages for me and keep asking me to visit them sometime.
Since the end of May/beginning of June, two families have been staying with us. One is an Indian Sikh family, and the other Pakistani. Both families have gone through some serious personal upsets which have left them homeless, and kipping at mine. So you would expect that this coincidence/commonality would make them more tolerant and supportive of each other.
Instead, there are skirmishes over small things (I’ll go into further detail if it’s of interest). Relevant to this thread, one of the points of contention was breakfast.
Indian uncle likes to eat at 5.30am on the dot. He and his wife would do the whole khatar patar in the kitchen. Their khatar patar included making the fire alarm go off. That time of morning I’m out for a run so I was initially unaware of the kerfuffle.
Aww! That’s nice.
If they are living for a while at your place, then they must not be considered as guests and you really do not have to act as a host.
