Perhaps I should tightened my belt and get ready to run before saying this .
I visit a family at times far away and stay overnight. The woman of the house starts working in the kitchen in such a way that whole house knows she is working and preparing breakfast!
Drawers keep getting open and closed, spoons are making musical sound and microwave door is shut with forceā¦etc.
After about three hours the breakfast being ready is announced by her husband with a grinā¦and until then I am sooooo dying of hunger.
The breakfast is only omelet (Khaagina) and toasted bread and tea. And at eleven in the morning the breakfast is served, so what about lunch?
Why do some women have to make such a big deal about it?
hehe reminds me of someone I know in my family. I guess some people are not a morning person and work very slow in morning time. She may be a decent cook and a good host otherwise but perhaps being forced out of bed (by her husband) at a time other than her normal routine (guessing b/c her kids are older now) doesn't sit well with her?
hehe reminds me of someone I know in my family. I guess some people are not a morning person and work very slow in morning time. She may be a decent cook and a good host otherwise but perhaps being forced out of bed (by her husband) at a time other than her normal routine (guessing b/c her kids are older now) doesn't sit well with her?
Yes. A bit too slow. :D
If they were not so close to me, I would have stayed in nearby hotel but that again, would be unacceptable to them.
Next time you go, wake up early and pick up breakfast for the family or offer to take them out for breakfast. I'm sure your friend's wife will appreciate it :)
If I was visiting someone often like that, I'd do something for them as well.
Pick up breakfast for the familia, clean up for them later on, buy them something on your way over like dessert or do something nice for the lady of the house.
Take some protein bars in your luggage.
Eat one in the morning, sit smiling in living room. Tell her "bhabi choreen kia jaldi hy naasty ki"
let the whole family starve. :D
its not about getting fed, its how I am getting fed.
Good ideas.
Whenever I get there we all stay late and talking or visiting the area or I arrive very late.
What I do rest of the day is go shopping etc. and do take them out to dinner or bring home something on my way back after calling them ahead to not worry for dinner.
Have to have something at home with them so they do not feel bad. its just that breakfast meal cannot be avoided at times. Rest of the meals pretty much can be taken care of.
@Monk: Yes, thinking of packing some dry meal like cookies, energy bar or dry fruits.. for next planned visit.
As Madz124 said, the hostess might not be a morning person. Or it's possible the hosts think you are not a morning person so they may serve the breakfast a bit late so that you can maximize your sleep. Or the hostess might first be preparing something for the lunch/dinner, hence the noise in the kitchen, which is most likely unintentional.
Also as suggested above, just pack some snacks to discreetly eat them in your room in case you feel peckish. And try to take the hosts out for lunch/dinner or bring take-away from a nice restaurant so that they don't feel too burdened with the additional workload of catering to you. Also, of course, you must already know to bring at least a good cake/a nice box of something like Godiva/Lindt chocolates etc. for the hosts whenever you go visit them.
Personally though, unless it's my parents' home, I don't like frequent overnight stays at other people's homes, and prefer staying at a hotel/motel. I know some very close family members might get a bit offended if they learn that you are not staying with them. But the way to get around that is, if possible, to not let them know that you are visiting their city so that they don't feel snubbed because of your staying in a hotel.
Since the end of May/beginning of June, two families have been staying with us. One is an Indian Sikh family, and the other Pakistani. Both families have gone through some serious personal upsets which have left them homeless, and kipping at mine. So you would expect that this coincidence/commonality would make them more tolerant and supportive of each other.
Instead, there are skirmishes over small things (Iāll go into further detail if itās of interest). Relevant to this thread, one of the points of contention was breakfast.
Indian uncle likes to eat at 5.30am on the dot. He and his wife would do the whole khatar patar in the kitchen. Their khatar patar included making the fire alarm go off. That time of morning Iām out for a run so I was initially unaware of the kerfuffle.
On the fourth morning I return to find the two uncles facing off. One yelling, āMeri neend tabaah kardiā and the other replying, āKi karda pokh lagi si.ā
So I started waking up just before 4am to fit in my run and be back in time to make Indian uncleās breakfast, quietly. Now you know why I am on the side of the host
And at eleven in the morning the breakfast is served, so what about lunch?
