ok…so Do you cherish and love your khandan ?(close relatives like ur khala’s and mamo’s and chacha’s and grandparents and cousins )
If yes..state why
If No..state why
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another thread in life1 made me think…I’ve got like the BEST khandan in the world:alhamd: one I cherish and love and enjoy each and every moment I spend with…
where I know Each and every person looks out for me and when in some serious trouble they will be a shield for me and stand up for me when I need them.
Yes our opinions differ…thori oonch neech ho jati hai kabhi kabhi…but they r still the BEST 
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Now your turn to tell why you cherish your khandan or why not.
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I only cherish very few people in my Khandan.
Most of them suffer from major jealousy issues :(
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I love my khandan and they love me too.
Oonh , neech is the test of their sincerity to you and yours to them.
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I only cherish very few people in my Khandan.
Most of them suffer from major jealousy issues :(
Same with me :(
Some people are good... but majority is bad. Always poking their noses, interfering, jealousy, politics... They are even interfering in my rishta issues (when their own sons and daughters have done love marriages).
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I cherish them because they have provided every bit of reason to.
We are pretty closely knit family (even extended one). From my childhood we (me and siblings) have socialize a lot within family with ammi-abbu. My parents are at pretty good terms with pretty-much everyone in the family (on both sides ..i.e mom and dad's side). I guess I have learned a trick or two from them.
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rightly said:k:
who do u include in the extended one?
share a few of those tricks with us… 
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who do u include in the extended one? share a few of those tricks with us....
Beside real bro/sis or ammi-abbu I mean cousins of ammi-abbut. They are just like real mamu/chachu tu us.
and I charge fee for sharing tricks :)
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I’d say u r lucky with tht…I hvnt met most of my parents cousins…so i cant say much abt them…and the one’s i did meet…didnt feel a bond with them…
GS members get free tricks 
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mere paas tumhe kehne ko bas ek hi cheez hai.... u seem to be really bored...go find urself a hobby :@:
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i do. because blood is thicker than water, they say.
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I don't particularly cherish many people in my khandaan. There are a few cousins, one mamu, one chacha and 2 phupos who i genuinely love, but the rest of them make it hard for me to love or cherish them frankly. They are selfish and matloobi people, with only their own interests at heart. As a kid i was unaware of this but the older i've got the more i've learnt about the politics in my khandaan and its pretty sad.
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For the ones who are saying that their family is jealous/matlabi etc., they must think the same about you. There is some sort of hadith (I can't quote it) but along the lines of make ties with those who break ties with you.
I love my family, all of them. I can understand the "nosy'ness" the gossips, lies, users and abusers. My family has that too, but overtime I've come to just ignore that. I love them all!
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For the ones who are saying that their family is jealous/matlabi etc., they must think the same about you. There is some sort of hadith (I can't quote it) but along the lines of make ties with those who break ties with you.
I love my family, all of them. I can understand the "nosy'ness" the gossips, lies, users and abusers. My family has that too, but overtime I've come to just ignore that. I love them all!
I am quite sure none of my relatives think of me as matloobi, because I'm always kind and nice to them, I don;t see them as people to be used for my own gain, sadly they don't return the favour, and that's cos they're just selfish people.
I believe there is also a hadith about keeping good company. Nuff said.
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For the ones who are saying that their family is jealous/matlabi etc., they must think the same about you. There is some sort of hadith (I can't quote it) but along the lines of make ties with those who break ties with you.
I love my family, all of them. I can understand the "nosy'ness" the gossips, lies, users and abusers. My family has that too, but overtime I've come to just ignore that. I love them all!
No its not always like that. My mom and dad are the only educated persons from both their respective families and I guess education has made them go less into family politics. Also, since they both had been living away from the families for so long, they are not into family politics. Other people in their respective families are very much into politics, sometimes leaving my mom and dad blank and unaware of their motives and intentions. Also, we are the only children who have been brought up away from khandan and since we also don't know anything about family politics. We are dragged into politics from time to time by our cousins and we do sometimes get puzzled with all this. So I guess its the tarbiat which teaches children how to behave in the khandan. But once children are mature enough, they can understand the underlying politics and they can thus form their opinions.
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I hate to be the jerk here (again) but it appears that every GS member has saints as parents who are SO much better then the rest of their khandan, therefore everyone is just out to get their family. Come on guys, think outside the box a little especially when your exposed to so much here
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GSing is a hobby. 
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Well my khandaan are like the Maffia... nuff said.
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yes i do love and cherish my khandaan because they are fun, nice and caring to be with.
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I love my family. Well some of the aunti's are worst of the worst, but then i forgive them because they don't have mental capacity to behave & talk like a human.
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I hate to be the jerk here (again) but it appears that every GS member has saints as parents who are SO much better then the rest of their khandan, therefore everyone is just out to get their family. Come on guys, think outside the box a little especially when your exposed to so much here
This thread isn't about parents, its about khandaan,and how we get on with them. I haven't mentioned my parents but my parents are deffo no saints though its irrelevant to this thread methinks, and its great that you get on with your extended family and love them etc, but your experience is yours, mine is mine etc and my khandaan are mainly awful, period. Believe it or not, i am actually seeing the bigger picture here.