single family is nice....but has its drawbacks, dont kid yourselves. We have to do the laundry, marketing, cleaning, caring for our 3 littles...on our own. This is NOT a complaint but you know, it can get really lonely. WHen you have one that gets a stomach bug, all of them come down with it. On top of all the extra laundry and kissing and story books, the mama ends up going for 4 days without a shower. Its hard and its lonely. Yes we have our privacy and yes its nice in many ways. But I do so wish sometimes to have loved ones closer and if closer means IN MY HOUSE, then thats really ok with me. Maybe its cause I have 3 boys all close in age and all so young but really I love my family, I love my hubbys family and wouldnt have a prob living in a joint household.
i've had experience just living in my parent home and them having my grandparents there as well making it a joint family, then my dads sister moved in across the rd
we were better off when the nearest relative was 2 miles away
20meters away is a nightmare trust me
yes you have to do everything urself in a nuclear family, but atleast you have your personal space with out people around ALL the time and you start feeling home is no longer home
I would say that once u get married if u have a susral that likes to cause troubles they will do so even if u live in their house or thousand miles away....
I agree its worse if they r living with u and causing trouble but from my experience some people just know how to cause so much pain that its just impossible to ignore...
Both systems can work depending on what personality type u are.....in other words...what may work for one may not necessarily work out well for another.
For me personally....a nuclear family would be ideal because i am a private person and I need my personal space to be happy. I want to be able to make decisions for myself and with my husband in regards to our future and our relationship without a third party being involved.
However with that said, I am more then willing to consider living in a joint family system depending on the kind of husband i marry and the kind of family he has and most of all....the living situation is a major factor and needs to be taken into consideration.
erm joint family system is better…no im sorry i would never want to be alone …das scary…but when i have kids then i might think abt havin a separate home with my family
I think it depends on what kind of family you have ...as someone said above every thing has advantages n disadvantages ..
advantages are your kids can be taken care of , there is always someone in time of need ,there s always someone with you when you feel lonely or sick etc n disadvantages can be like no pvt life ,unnecessary clashes n interfering .so joint family system is good only if you have a nice understanding family :)
In our whole family in and out of Pak nobody lives jointly. This was something started by my grand father. And I definately am in favor of living as satellite family.
All the responses thus far have been from a selfish point of view. Why not spare a thought for the aging parents? Can you imagine the gut renching feeling they would have seeing their son move out after marriage? The worst thing to do for aging Pakistani parents is to leave them alone.
I agree that a newly married couple may find inconvieniences living with elders and there may be the issue of privacy (or lack there of) but all these things are superficial and can be overcome. My advice to all the soon to be brides is to treat your in-laws as your own parents; and for the groom to be the kane for his parents so that they can enter and survive old age on a solid platform.
aisha baji? df!
…das scary…but when i have kids then i might think abt havin a separate home with my family