So as the topic suggests I’ve been wondering about why people obsess with just marrying their own kind even though they seem to have no luck? If they have the same values, religion etc etc as you do shouldn’t they be at least considered?
I’ve never been through the rishta (omiai as they call it in Japan) process since I’m not desi nor do I come from a rich or traditional family.
So what makes you consider somebody as marriage material? Their nationality or bank account? or is it something entirely different?
girls desire and they only demand material in return when in return they also something to offer. and if their Plan A is not working, they settle for plan B, C, D....as their are 25 more alphabets.
whereas for guys, if they are more or less presents a complete package, they have this image in their mind, and they will follow idea of their dream girl till their last breath. this is why u will see a lot pakistani guys in their 40s, alone and.....
girls desire and they only demand material in return when in return they also something to offer. and if their Plan A is not working, they settle for plan B, C, D....as their are 25 more alphabets.
whereas for guys, if they are more or less presents a complete package, they have this image in their mind, and they will follow idea of their dream girl till their last breath. this is why u will see a lot pakistani guys in their 40s, alone and.....
but zobia can't their mommy nag them till they marry one of the girls she picked?
but zobia can't their mommy nag them till they marry one of the girls she picked?
moms only pressure em when they are in their mid to late 20s. all the guys u will see in their 30s are usually very dheet. they dont care much about mom's nagging.
curiosity kills the cat...and i dont want u to be killed. :p
hmm...i know handful...but when i was discussing this issue with my bhabi she was telling me about my brother's friends...who are qualified pros, phds with some really irrational demands.
curiosity kills the cat...and i dont want u to be killed. :p
hmm...i know handful...but when i was discussing this issue with my bhabi she was telling me about my brother's friends...who are qualified pros, phds with some really irrational demands.
So as the topic suggests I've been wondering about why people obsess with just marrying their own kind even though they seem to have no luck? If they have the same values, religion etc etc as you do shouldn't they be at least considered?
I've never been through the rishta (omiai as they call it in Japan) process since I'm not desi nor do I come from a rich or traditional family.
So what makes you consider somebody as marriage material? Their nationality or bank account? or is it something entirely different?
Some ppl just aren't interested in a partner from another race, maybe they don't feel an attraction to 'outsiders' but more often their families wouldn't be keen or might not even accept their son or daughter marrying a non-desi.. For a lot of ppl they just might see it as too much hassle.. Apart from the 'emotional' stuff there might be practical problems eg religion or relatives don't speak much English (or whatever other language) and it might be difficult for them to communicate.. Some also worry that their kids/grandkids won't grow up speaking their 'mother tongue.' Most of these problems can be overcome but for desis in particular culture and family are very important..
Most people consider someone marriage material as long as they identify with each other on certain levels...culture, religion and status to name a few.
As long as families and the whole picture looks okay...things should work out. Thats what they say at least.
I'm from down under too lol
For me its personality and nationality. Saying that though, I've been in a long term relationship with someone who was of a different nationaly and religion.
I'm a convict too :P
(I don't think you'll get this if you're not british though)
I think i read one of your other posts, you said you were mixed race asian and australian ,marrying a paki, right? good on ya.
anyhoo, back to the topic at hand, i think it depends on your mentality, and also partly due the way you've been brought up. i think if your parents put certain values in you, you will look for those same things in your partner...and that often (although not always) tends to be found with people of same background/etc etc
i've noticed this a LOT with parents who suddenly start talking about caste issues etc when marriage comes into the topic (and this is usually the only time when this stuff comes up)