How did you announce your wedding/marriage to your friends/acquaintance/followers?
How did you deal with people sharing your pictures on social media? Okay with it? Banned people from doing it?
How much of you’re wedding did you share on social media?
My friend is making a huge deal about keeping it a secret from Facebook, and on her wedding day she plans to write something - probably something corny - on Facebook.
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our wedding was announced by word of mouth first, the engagement party second, and of course, through the invitations that followed lastly. my parents also made phone calls to family around the world letting them know.
i think its completely silly to ban people from not sharing your wedding photos. you can’t control other people like that! you can ask them to refrain if it means that much to you to be the first one to put those pictures up, but you can’t tell them no or get upset if they choose not to. who made you the boss of the world? your wedding is only as big a deal as it is FOR YOU. no one else. get a grip. 
gah!
can you tell this ticks me off?
i was on GS the whole time i was planning my wedding and i shared the process here, and shared the photos after. they’re up on the photographer’s site, they went up on a popular wedding blog, and they went up on facebook. i loved seeing all the pics my friends and family took- it was a different perspective to the day than what the photographers had, and no less important to me. i was not afraid/ashamed/vain about other’s seeing my photos. it was a great way for friends and family who could not attend to see things as they happened. i bet if instagram had been around/as popular back in 2007, a lot of people would have posted photos from the wedding there too. i would probably have created a hashtag just for my day and asked people to participate.
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The photo issue also becomes a problem when people attend segregated weddings where women in particular are dressed in a way they would not normally dress in a mixed gathering. I have friends who ask people not to share photos from such events, or ban cameras and say they will share their own photos. But I think it's getting harder and harder to control this since there are cameras in so many mobile devices. And things happen even when folks don't intend to be disrespectful of the host's wishes.
My wedding happened in the dark ages before social media existed, but you pose a lot of interesting questions that brides/grooms/families face now. Curious to hear what our recent and soon-to-be brides and grooms think.
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you did certain things your way at the wedding. let other people do things another way at their weddings. why should it annoy you or tick you off?
People have a right to privacy regardless of the latest social media advance.
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I invited my whole class to my wedding so obviously everyone knew. I never take pics with anyone nor do I post them online and my friends/family by large didn't share them. Few friends posted them on FB and I respectfully asked them to take them down to which they obliged.
in my opinion it's imperative on the guests to respect the hosts wishes as some people are more conservative/private than others (like me) and if someone is sharing their happy events with you, then you should respond with courtesy. It's just manners and you be mindful that different people have different values. What may seem inconsequential to you maybe very important to others.
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If I got married now (I got married back in 07 when social media was still pretty new-ish) I don't think I'd have a problem with people posting the wedding pix. But then I see how bride's pics are shared so easily on public pages and people make ridiculous/snarky comments......so maybe I would have some hesitation for all the guests to post pictures bc I wouldn't really know their settings. BUT also, I figure, if I don't know the guest well enough to know their FB, I also doubt that they would post so many of my own pictures...
Honestly? unless it's a family member or you had some kind of work to do in it, I find it kind of weird having dozens of pictures/an entire album devoted to someone else's wedding. Your own pictures/a few pictures OK...but a huge album of someone else's wedding...i dunno.
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I’m like SO2…I got married in the dark ages too, before social media was even in existence 
I had a wedding this weekend I was invited too…there was a special “warning” printed out and included in the invitation that read:
“Please refrain from sharing ANY photos from the wedding festivities of the bride/groom or family members on facebook, twitter, Instagram or any other social media platforms , or through email. We take this request very seriously and appreciate your cooperation in this matter”
The bride is not hijabi, nor was this a segregated event.
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1) I got married not too long ago. Once we signed the contract with the hotel, we shared the wedding date with family, close friends/co-workers by word-of-mouth. Both of us started asking people for their home addresses so that was lead us to sharing the date. 4 months before the wedding, formal invitations were mailed out. No announcement was made on Facebook or any other social media site.
2) We made sure that we (hubby & I) had copyrights to all our pics/video. This was specifically written in our contract with the photographer. Thus, he will have to get our permission before posting any pics anywhere online. He did ask and we gave him permission to post 4-5 pics of us only (hubby and I). I've seen the pics and am ok with it. But I made sure no pics of guests/family etc. were posted by him. Oh and our names are NOT tagged on the pics posted by the photographer. This usually seems to be the main reason pics end up all over the internet at various forums/blogs/FB etc..... photographers posting TONS of pics to advertise their work (which they have every right to do so as long as they have copyrights for the pics).
I had a few guests post pics online afterwards. The pics themselves really didn't bother me. I have FB set up so I need to give permission for my name to be tagged on pics. I just didn't grant it so my name is not tagged on those.
3) I posted about 20ish pics on my personal FB. I'm very strict about who I add there....only have about 80ish people as "friends". I also posted a few pics on this forum to share some of the decor/my outfit/MU etc......and deleted them a few days later. Otherwise, I have not shared them anywhere else.
My friend is making a huge deal about keeping it a secret from Facebook, and on her wedding day she plans to write something - probably something corny - on Facebook.
Does you friend (or her family) own the copyrights to her wedding pics? If not, then how does she plan on stopping the photographer from posting his work? Or is she ok with the photographer posting pics?
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I find that ridiculous. I think they should have refrained from inviting ANY guests to their wedding.
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^ lol sgc! The mother of the bride is…ummm…slightly strange. She’s known being a drill sergeant type. At another wedding within this family last summer, when it came time for the girls to dance, she stood on a chair with a microphone, commanding all the men to leave the hall, yet no other arrangements had been made for them!! She was telling them to go and stand/wait in the entry foyer!! And then she kicked out the male dj, the male photographer, and started following around the male waiters who were trying to clear off all the tables!
I completely understand the not wanting to dance in front men, so then why even men in the first place? Why not have a women’s only mehndi and hire a women photographer and a women dj?!? 
I declined the invite, waisay bhi we had another party to go to 
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^ 
Yes, nothing wrong with wanting the girls to dance without men being there…but in that case, they should’ve made arrangements for the men to go to a separate hall during the dancing OR not invited men at all.
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i will share it so it is officially announced 
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Who posts other people’s personal pictures on random internet websites without asking for their permission first? We receive similar complaints here on GS from brides or their family members whose pictures made it here without their knowledge. Usually it’s the guests who leak these pictures through facebook etc and that’s highly unethical in my opinion. The right thing to do in this case is to respect and abide by the family’s request of not posting their pictures online for the world to see. Heck my own siblings never post a picture of mine on their facebook accounts because they know I don’t like it. Whenever there’s a birthday celebration or something, we take plenty of family pictures but none of mine end up on anyone’s facebook. And it doesn’t cause anyone any grief .. even if it did, I couldn’t care less. You’re not posting my pictures online without my permission, end of story.
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Haha - clipping of my valima ceremony was played on one of the national tv channels , I never made an issue outta it ....
In this age and time , you really can't restrict people - if you really want to do that then u need them to handover their mobile phones/cameras at reception ;).
Jayse mazarooN pe jutay bahaR rakwa'ay Jatay hain :D
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Haha - clipping of my valima ceremony was played on one of the national tv channels , I never made an issue outta it ....
That doesn't make it any less unethical on their part. I'd understand if they randomly videotaped you in some public place and then aired that footage of yours on their channel.... but airing someone's wedding video without their consent? Perhaps that's no big deal in Pakistan but they would've gotten sued big time elsewhere. It's true, you can't expect everyone to have some manners and not leak other people's private pictures without their knowledge but when it comes to tv channels, you can restrict them, that's what the laws are there for. I'm not saying that you should've done that, btw, I'm just saying if this had been a huge deal to someone else, it's not fair to downplay their privacy concerns.
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I don't understand why people wouldn't respect others wish for privacy. Not everyone is comfortable with their lives being lived out of FB. I am glad none of my guests acted stroppy over this. They were most gracious about it. But then again all of them were close friends/family and they respected my wishes.
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I agree, if a request is made, then it should me honored. I just snickered at the printed request in the invite I got because the person issuing it is something else all together!!!
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I think some people are being overtly judgemental and not taking into consideration that some people just like their privacy.
You shouldn't randomly post other peoples pictures up without checking with the host.
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nah I think its right! Everyone has his own choice. They didnt want it to be shared on social media, then I think they did right!!
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When my bro married a few years ago, there was a sign on a stand stating plz no photography from guests, other than family members and the official photographer.
It was a segregated wedding, my SIL wears hijab and she wore a white wedding dress, very classy and understated look.
Some other ladies started taking pics of the bride, and were saying "We can't wait to show our sons, or send to so and so,." Seriously..
There are people who don't care at all, despite being told otherwise.
We also have a few weddings coming up, again segregated affairs, and it is stated on the card 'No photography allowed by guests of the bride, bridal party and guests."