You said you are expected to - who set these expectations? Are you sure it wasn’t you? - Sometimes us gals think that marriage means that you take over ALL the household duties. You are not suppose to slave away with cooking and cleaning ALL THE TIME.
Please make sure you are not setting up too much expectations FOR YOURSELF and it wouldn’t matter to them whether you did or not.
Also if you are going to set the bar of expectations so high - believe or not it will be that high all your life.
If you had a hard day at work - it’s okay to eat out. Make do with a salad or leftovers.
It takes practice but you’ll learn short cuts to make your life easier with the cooking part - PCG mentioned freezing leftovers.
For the clothes - get him a hamper or a laundry basket - ask very nicely for him to put his clothes in there.