Re: just found out something new…
Lol, that’s the fun part. You treat them with kindness because you shouldn’t emulate their behavior…be better than them…but make them squirm. Agree with the points made above by Reha about you using your brain…and the one made by Diamond about how some of your threads are depressing and not so much because of your MIL/SIL’s behavior (which is still wrong)…but more because one and a half children later…you still don’t seem to get it, Nadz.
You sound so stressed in your threads, I wonder how stressed you are in real life. And that tension that you feel will seep into your interactions with your husband and your children and affect those relationships. Right now your daughter is too young to understand, but kids are not dumb…they pick up so much from the adults around them…they sense your tension/mood. What are you indirectly teaching your daugther? That she should allow every single issue to consume her…eat her up from the inside? Or would you rather teach her to rise above and put out the fires in a more positive way…with greater composure/maturity…and clarity of mind? It’s something to think about. Constant complaining is toxic, Nadz. It eventually drains loved ones of patience and positive energy…it can make them resent you and love you less. And all for what? Idiots that are never going to accept you?