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Agar aisah main agar family member hota/hoti aur mera bhai hot jis ki to be wife kay saath aisa honta to main kahta/kahti. Go ahead marry her and have kids. I'll take care of her kids if she dies.
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Aww Gr8Heera that is so sweet of you! I wish every one starts to think like this and be passionate about others and their pains and troubles etc. Nice advice you gave there buddy, I am impressed. :) Will keep it in mind!
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…Now the issue with telling him, is it going to be face to face?, if so, they need to go to a place..if not possible at home, nobody other than you and him, maybe a family wala park, not a resturant though.
Then, start off with the visit to the doc, and what was the outcome of that. Be cool and calm..no tears, if you do cry..then he will think of it as emotional blackmail.
Phir tell him, this is all i have to say..Keep quiet after that,maybe he will get angry, yell at you..scold you…i dont know the reaction..:(..but keep quiet and calm, you need to be strong to both you and him. You need to ask him to take time and then make a decision which you both should be happy with. If he wants to part ways, then so be it..You cannot hold a person to you if they dont want to, even if its going to hurt like heck.
Maybe if you do pressurize him, he will agree to stay; but do you really want that..na, not me.
Now telling the family, if it was me; I would not tell most, not initially:). Thats how i am, not when i can support myself, get myself the treatment. But if i have to depend on others for monetory support, do go ahead and tell them.
Be wise and Be happy!! Allah Taa’ala will Guide us all:hugz:
Aww Gr8Heera that is so sweet of you! I wish every one starts to think like this and be passionate about others and their pains and troubles etc. Nice advice you gave there buddy, I am impressed. :) Will keep it in mind!
Thank you Aisha. I didn't that you would like my thinking that much.
Yeah I would say maut and zindagi Allah kay haath main hai zaroori thori.
1 more thing kay is tarha husband ko dobara shadi kar kay do tarha kay person say deal karnay ka mauqa milay ga. lol just thinking in funny way.
Aisha agar hum dukh dard main hi kisi kay kaam na ain to aisi zindagi ka kia faida. Khaas tor say us waqt jub kay bunda mar raha ho to us say to jitni hamdardi aur mohabbat ki jaay kum hai. Uss ko jitni khushiaan day sakain day dena chahyay.
As I heard and believe that dilon main Allah basta hai isi liaay hamara dil hamain kabhi ghalat karnay ko naheen kahta aur kisi ka dil khush karna to samjhain Allah ki khushnoodi hasil karna hai. That is my believe and way. So I try to but sometimes I can't due to my rules and wrong way of saying things.
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Aisha Ji is evarything ok??
Otherwise i think aap pakistani drame too much dektein hain
u shud get out more.
waise meri opinion he ke jasie humayun saeed ne 'mehendi' drame mai kiya tha, akri waqt thak kisi ko nai batya aisa hi karna chahiye.
Khud toh marna he hai doosro ko bi waqt se pehle bata ke marna hai.
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Amir pindi, I have opened threads in life 1 after a long time. There could be something troubling me or something in my mind that I opened a thread? DO not question my motives. As for dramas, I do not get any desi channel at my house apart from NDTV Imagine and I highly doubt it that I watch any Hamayun Saeed dramas on that. I was serious, is serious about this thread and there is no joke.
Ager asi baat hai....toh I dont think it should be a difficult thing to arrive at the right solution for something like this for somebody as intelligent and mature as you.
I repeat all what Grt-Heera said.
Logical and obvious thing is u shud be honest about each and everything to your partner.
U should tell him straight away.
Foundation of lie on starting any thing is not good.To hide one lie you have to lie 100 more times.
Aur ager Shadi ke baad, husband aur in-laws koh pata chale he could also think that you you cheated into marrying him etc by hiding such major facts of urs= more marriage problem.
Shaed tumhari initial qurbani tumahre agsint he stand ho jaye....u get what i mean Aisha ji.
Ager husbnad acha ho ga, u tell him on Nikah, maybe he'lss appreciate it your honesty, if he loves u hell still marry you and help you get better treatment and cured.
Nothing is impossible aihsa ji.
There is a 44 year old female who had last stage of cancer all over her body.She was told she will die.
She was never much religious in her life, was one of those more 'wordly' muslims.
But she contemplated her wrong life, and remembered Allah, she departed to Makkah, for 5 days she did 'ihtikaf' in kaba, doing nothing apart from and praying and begging Allah for forgiveness, and treating her tumours with by repeatdly pouring 'abe-zam zam' over them. Since she was told by someone to do this.
After 4 days her tumours had totally dissappeared. It was a miracle.
There are many hadiths and other such accounts of the magical and curing properties of zam zam. Many books are written on this subject.
ne wya zaida bhol gaya hoon again
im off
Aisha Ji is evarything ok??
Otherwise i think aap pakistani drame too much dektein hain u shud get out more.
waise meri opinion he ke jasie humayun saeed ne 'mehendi' drame mai kiya tha, akri waqt thak kisi ko nai batya aisa hi karna chahiye.
Khud toh marna he hai doosro ko bi waqt se pehle bata ke marna hai.
I don't think so. Ittefaaq say main nain mehndi drama daikha tha. I think he did wrong.
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aisha ji yes gr.heeras advice r really valuable.
hes seems 2 really care 4 u.
waise u r mkin us worried. aap to teek salamaat hai na?
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Amir tum zyada nahi bol gaye ho. You actually said all the right things. Thank you for saying those. I understand. Gr8Heera jee yeh mehndi drama ki baat kyon horahi hai idher?
aisha ke chamche
That was really uncalled for and unprovoked. You should watch what you write.
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i meant it as joke..look above
heeras seems to b a nice guy.
wasie aisha ji, aap toh shadi shuda hai na. whos prob is this then.. if someone u know Allah unki sehatman kare aur muskil ahsaan kare.
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I do not feel like divulging any details but this is a genuine concern. Heera must be a nice guy, no issues there.
i meant it as joke..look above
heeras seems to b a nice guy.
wasie aisha ji, aap toh shadi shuda hai na. whos prob is this then.. if someone u know Allah unki sehatman kare aur muskil ahsaan kare.
I do not feel like divulging any details but this is a genuine concern. Heera must be a nice guy, no issues there.
Thank you both of you.
Hum jaison ko bhi achcha kahtay hain loag. lol
I'm not a gaaay. lol
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Amir bhai mera to rule hai koi aap say mashwara mangta hai to aap ussay mukhlisana mashwara dain is liaay kay yay bhi aik amanat hai aur sahi mashwara dena chahyay aur Allah is ki poochh guchh karay ga.
Allah hamaray chotay chotay mashwaron ko bhi sila day ga. Achchay mashwaron ka achcha aur buray ka bura.
I don't bother if person is lying or making things just don't care about those things and give mashwara if they ask.
Why would you even pass out or sound like a gay?
I meant gaay (Cow).
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OMG:smack: sorry about that! And why would you even sound like a cow then?
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My apologies for now flowing with the gravity of this thread, but I will tell the doctor to cut down on his daily dose of bollywood.
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Do not need to apoligise. You had nothing constructive to put forward to this thread.