Re: Joint families
Where would you prefer to live?
Nuclear family with preferably no relatives in the city. Just close enough to be there for each other when needed and far enough not to interfere in each others chosen lifestyle .
Re: Joint families
Nuclear family with preferably no relatives in the city. Just close enough to be there for each other when needed and far enough not to interfere in each others chosen lifestyle .
best of both the worlds...eh?
kachchii pakkii aazaadii? :D
saaf chhupte bhii nahiiN, saamne aate bhii nahiiN
kia Khoob hai parda k chilman se lage baiThe haiN! :p
Re: Joint families
best of both the worlds...eh?
kachchii pakkii aazaadii? :D
saaf chhupte bhii nahiiN, saamne aate bhii nahiiN kia Khoob hai parda k chilman se lage baiThe haiN! :p
:)
Re: Joint families
Do they work out in this day and age?
Negatives:
Less privacy
Newlywed couples get less time and opportunities to get accustomed to each other
A lot of sociopolitical drama, where everyone and their mother (in-law) want to be the one in charge.
Which again puts a lot of strain on relationships.
(Mostly) Everything is transparent
Positives must be, having a lot of people around you ALL THE TIME, for those who enjoy that type of stuff :D
Well, I'm against joint families, and I moved out when my older brother got married. But I would like to hear from those who are for this type of arrangement?
I for one would be very uncomfotable living in a joint family setup.
In my mind they can. But it takes etiquettes , mannerisms, courtesy and wisdom. Elders have to be present in the joint family system. If its just siblings, you can be sure someone will turn out to be a rotten tomato to stink up the whole place!
I only see benefits to a joint family system.
- More household income
- Greater family savings
- no duplication of furnitures, cutlery , decorative pieces
- Some shoes and clothes can be shared
- Net efficient use of utilities
- Barakah in cooking, eating together
- no need to hire baby sitters
- someone always available to lend a hand in cooking/cleaning and laundry
- someone's always the handyman around the house
- someone's always available for groceries, etc...
Re: Joint families
Lack of space, especially in the West, is the only disadvantage, IMO.
Everything else (privacy, chores, minding your own business etc. ) can be worked out depending on the people involved and how much they really want it to work.
I agree, lack of space and the houses a made of freakin wood clumped together. So even if you make a little noise or do something, everyone could practically hear it.
Re: Joint families
Personally I would always choose to have my own house as opposed to living in a join family setting. I mean there are of course benefits to it but I think imo the negatives out weigh these. In our family anyways it's like once your married and you've saved up enough money your free to go ahead and move out and your actually encouraged by the elders to do this! Haha they prefer to have the house to themselves 👌 works for me!
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It's as easy/difficult as you make it for yourself.
11 years, 2 Bhabis, 3 nephews and a 4th on the way. 10 of us at all times, 11 when my grandfather comes to stay. Wouldn't change it for the world. You have good days and you have bad days, but the good most certainly outweigh the bad, Alhamdulillah.
Pretty much this.
As for original post, it works for some it doesn't for others. Really depends on people and preferences. If people do not want to live together they will make excuses to argue and create issues.
Re: Joint families
In joint families, if the mother in law happy, then the sister in law is upset, if she is happy, then the brother in law is miffed.. there is ALWAYS someone disapproving your actions and way of life. you basically give up what you want/how ou want to live because someone will have a say in it. what is the point of marriage if you have no say in your life?