Job or Possible Rishta

Lifestyle Relationships
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If you are having to choose between a job where you may be tied up for a few years (like 2 yrs) vs. a possible rishta that hasn’t yet made up his mind, and you’ve just recently found him, and you want to give it a chance…but you know it needs to be more than 2 wks before any decisions are made…

then which do you pick?

Women, would you forgo a job offer that locks you in for two years to wait for someone to make up their mind, so that if they do, you can move easily within the two years?

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so its rishta.

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let's not drag in my personal issue here, it's a general question - what would a sensible person pick?

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Well ask a sensible person.

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What sort of a job contract has you locked in for 2 years? And if you were to break the contract, what are the professional repercussions?

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If the choice is between an amazing opportunity that I will never come across again and a man that may or may not want me in the future, I'd pick the job opportunity.

Now if the job is aiwein hi, and it's locking me in for two years, when being free could mean looking for a better job opportunity and the chance of starting a life with a good man, then I'd give the man a chance.

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if its the start of your career i.e. you are lets say younger than 30 .. then go for career .. you would get enough rishtas later on .. but if its not eht case .. then try to give him/her sometime

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Hmm...diminishing marginal returns of long term "marriage" contract vs diminishing marginal returns of a "job" contract. A sensible person would look go for the equilibrium where these two marginal returns are exactly equal. It's an econometrics problem.

For easy decision, I'd say if he's cuter than salary bump, then go for the hunk. Otherwise more money never hurts! Or just toss a coin.

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its not like the job will destroy the rishta. this is the 21st century pal. people move all the time in their 20s and 30s. if your rishta prospect is relatively new, it shouldn't even be in the picture against the career you have been working on for your whole adult life.

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Toughie :(

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Job. I ain't gonna stick around for a "possibility" and if that possibility cared enough he'd understand and make it work even if I had to move for a job.

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^
She is single, clearly. :D

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Me? No I'm engaged actually :D

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Ah, that's a tough one! If the relationship is still in early stages, can't expect the guy to rush it. I would probably go for the job opportunity (provided it's a lot better than my current one and hard to come by). If the guy gets serious later on, you two can figure out later whose job allows them more flexibility to move around ... he could come live with u temporarily (after marriage) until your contract ends.

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Assuming the job is better than the one I have right now.........I'd go for it. I would never put a guy who hasn't made up his mind about me before my career. Besides, if it's a guy I recently met and want to "give it a chance"....that means I haven't made up my mind about him either. Giving it a chance isn't the same as feeling like he's the one.

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^ what paheli00 said!

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Personally I'd go for the career, I was going to say it's because my own situation has been very different. but I see that majority of people here are in favor of the career option as well....:D

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EXACTLY.

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In the mentioned scenario , I would definitely go for the JOB :)

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Men shouldn't really be giving their opinions, as they do not have ovaries or ticking biological clocks/timebombs.