How would you feel if someone came to your wedding in jeans?
It’s a nice occasion, the person is a teenager (so they’re old enough to know better).
Just throwing this out there.
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I do not care , I have gone to many a weddings in jeans and see people on men side in jeans all the time. I do not see women in jeans in weddings but I do see teenager girls in jeans. My teenage daughter wants to go to weddings in jeans and my wife gets furious, I have to intervene and shell out some money to buy a dress of my daughters liking. If my wife would be on same page it could save me boatload of money, women dresses are so darn
Expensive.
An example from a recent wedding. Guess how much I had to pay for it?
Jeans to a wedding
If he is a teenager I may ignore it... But grown up... I'll still ignore but it'll come across as weird to me. But honestly I wouldn't confront the person. :)
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I'd think she is strange? Perhaps it cud mean disrespect too for not sparing 5 mins to change into something appropriate. However, i doubt such a person would ( atleast shouldn't ) be on the bride/groom's mind. That had be such a waste of their precious wedding time.
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I personally wouldn't care, I'd love to be have a wedding so chilled that even I could wear jeans to it. However I think that if you are attending someone else's wedding you should respect their feelings. If they want a formal dresscode then you should adhere to their wishes. If, however, they are a tramp like me, then feel free to turn up in your PJs.
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Jeans is part of semi casual party-wear, if wore properly. Usually, it is fitted boot cut style.
Now someone is wearing lose or prison style jeans to a party, then its totally stupid.
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But nobody enforces any dress code in any shadi, at least I did not get an invitation with a request to adhere to formal dress code. Yes I have got many which says no boxed gifts please.
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Its not about enforcing a dress code. Its common sense.
There is no enforced dress code requirement to go to a public beach. But it would be very odd if you show up in a polyester kee pant shirt
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Honestly I would find it odd. BUT it really depends on how the jeans are worn. I know men who wear jeans to weddings, but again it depends on how they are worn. Usually with dress shoes, dress shirt and a blazer.....and depending on the wedding usually that is fine.
For females I would think:
Dark jeans with a dressy top and pumps......ok might fly.
Faded jeans with a t-shirt and sneakers? No.
@Mirch; my mother is like your wife (I'd probably be the same way) we would never even think about wearing jeans to a wedding.......dressing up is half the fun!
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Ha! someone I know said the same thing…it’s disrespectful to show up in such inappropriate clothing. And I think it is, but at the same time I can’t imagine a bride and groom caring about it (unless it was a very close friend/family member doing so).
Well, no one’s confronting anyone, lol. It just seems odd.
Not a party, but a wedding. I feel like ther’e sa lot more leeway at davats/parties, than at weddings. (personally..unless it’s something with my close friends I wouldn’t be caught dead in jeans at a desi gathering!)
Yeah, but like TLK said, it’s common sense…social norms to dress properly at a wedding.
Agree with you on dressing up, that’s half the fun!
I have to say, I’m surprised to see some of these replies. I dunno about yall but all the weddings I’ve ever attended here in US/Canada, are super dressy. You don’t have to be decked out, but jeans are definitely a no-no. Maybe for little kids it’s OK, but for a teenager who’s old enough to know better,…I"m surprised people are saying jeans for a wedding are OK.
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Jeans are a no-no; it doesn't matter what the color, style or length-- unless it's a backyard BBQ wedding and it explicitly states on the invite that dress code is casual. Otherwise all desis should know by now that desi weddings are dressy affairs.
And I agree- it doesn't matter if the bride and groom care or not, you (or your parents if you're a teen) should care as a guest to dress appropriately and according to the occasion. And if it's western clothes you want to wear, that's fine too but how about a nice formal tailored pair of pants with a dress shirt and a nice blazer for either gender? Nice shoes and some jewellery and you'd be as chic as the next girl in her lehenga.
Honestly, it even bothers me when vendors like photographers and planners/coordinators show up in jeans and t's. But they have even less of an excuse- they should be very well aware of the formality of the wedding and dress accordingly since they're at work. No one would come to an office job dressed inappropriately, a wedding is no different esp since as a vendor of that kind you should blend in and be discreet as you work and not stick out like a sore thumb.
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For a wedding? Nope.
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The one on the right is fine- he's wearing a suit. I'd lose the scarf though lol.
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My nephews always wear jeans to weddings with a dress shirt n blazer style jacket n they look quite smart, so it depends on the style of Evans and what they are worn with.
It wouldn't bother me, n u know what teenagers r like
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I wouldn't mind how someone came dressed to my wedding.
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i would only be noticing my groom on my wedding day so i will not have time to see what others are wearing :D
but i won't mind anyone coming in jeans to my wedding. its a guest's choice to wear whatever seems comfortable and good to him/her.
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Depends on the guests' culture as well. My angrez work friends came in jeans and leggings to my wedding because they didn't know what else to wear.
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Really? They don't attend formal
gora weddings where suits and cocktail dresses are a go?
I'm really surprised, y'all! You guys are way more laid back than I am clearly haha.
Oh, and I don't buy the "teens will be teens" stuff. You can bet they wouldn't DREAM of attending a prom in their jeans and those can be at least as formal as a wedding! ;)
Ive attended a very close cousins wedding in ghar kay kapray. I was wearing a non ironed shalwar qameez with faded dupatta. I was travelling and reached right before mehndi so couldn't change. She didnt care one bit. Instead waited for me to show up so that I can walk her to the stage. Loved her carefree attitude of not worrying about me ruining her wedding video.
Maybe jeans girl had some sort of time constraint? I dont think it would matter to the bride and groom what their guests are wearing. And definitely no disrespect. Imho.