Yes i agree so the question which all this comes down to is how can mothers who are growing older along with their children
a) allow them to become more independant and not treat them as babies b) find other things to do?
Right, and that doesn't mean working. If she wants a career, that's fine. If she wants to paint, draw, decorate her home, that's fine. If she wants to cook, that's fine. If she wants to volunteer for a charity, that's fine. The point is she should not have to depend on others for her own happiness and sense of self worth.