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mashallah bulbuli are prettier then 60year old granny. I am so proud of you girl.
i wholeheartedly agree with this post, well said mama :k:
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I doubt your hubby knows about the "inappropriate jokes " you two exchange.. plus if you were that pretty hot smit (as per your post above) your cousin would have married you then, but he didn't.. since girls like you are simply a time pass... now let it go girl.. you are only ruining someone else's marriage now.. and the only reason you are afraid of the confrontation because you know you are guilty.. dym you is guilty!
he wanted to actually..12 yrs ago before he got married to the 60yr old granny...but since my older sis wasnt married then, his parents didnt ask for my hand thinking my mom and dad would get hurt.
such a looser you are, you really don't deserve him - it's good he is not married to you. but now you wanted to intentionally destroyed his life, pathetic !
I think we ALL have tried to find ways to justify actions that our conscience doesn't allow us to feel 100% comfortable about. It's human nature, we do it to protect our egos. And it could be about a variety of issues. I know I've been there. Many of us have. The important thing is to realize where we're headed and try to fix the problem.
Bubli, assuming this story is true......most of the posters here give sincere/honest advice. And so far, very few (if any at all) are supporting your ideas. I think the majority of the people here have advised that you maintain a distance from your cousin. So, that says something.
You may be prettier than her. You may be more modern than her. But this isn't about looks or personality. You used a pinky finger analogy to describe the lack of closeness between your cousin and his wife. Well.........how do you expect her to get close to him if he's always busy with you? If he's always occupied in conversations with you....that leaves few opportunities for her to bond with him. That's not right, nor is it fair. Put yourself in her situation? This isn't even about her hijab or her being ultra conservative. Even "liberal" gori women would be upset if their husbands were busy with another woman and it wouldn't matter one bit if she was like a "best friend."
Do the right thing, hon. Maintain a distance from him. What you consider a light matter could be wrecking someone else's home. And you don't want that on your conscience. So take a break from him. Tell him to focus on his marriage and to make the effort to connect with his wife. Explain your reasons for wanting to maintain a distance. And if he's a MATURE guy who has even a drop of consideration for his wife and importance for his marriage.......he'll understand the effects of his actions because he'll put himself in his wife's shoes and try to understand how it makes her feel. No guy would like it if his wife was spending more time with another guy. We've given you the same advice. It may not be what you want to hear. But the final decision is up to you. I will say that had you felt 100% comfortable about what you're doing.....you wouldn't have felt the need to create a thread about it.
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Part ways, he used to be best friends with you..now he's married. Inappropriate jokes to married men? The wife has enough reasons to ask you to stop contacting him.
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Bubli , what if the tables get turned and your husband is exchanging inappropriate jokes with other female friends of his would you allow that ?
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yup bubli u should stay away from him..me and my finace were about to break the engagement coz of this one girl from his uni as she was over FRANK with my fiance..and we started seriouly fighting coz of this ...and at the end he stopped talking to her as she didnt mean anything to him...i am just saying that he is just contacting u probably as an escape for some fun...and he will definitely prefer his wife when it comes to ending the relationship ...so for your own good and for the wife and the hubby...stay away from him..as u are creating probs btw their relationship...