jealous insecure wife

Lifestyle Relationships
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now, guys and girls, tell me what to do in a situation like such?

me and my fav cousin(male) are like the best of freinds…we both are married(to diff people) but still are in touch and talk on msn,skype sometimes,emails forwrds,jokes,sms cos thats just how we are… now his wife is an ultra-conservative girl from karachi while we’re not.we both were born and brought up in a broader mind set and talking to male cousins,fooling around ith them, making silly and sometimes inappropriate jokes on sms or soemthng, is considered being friendly..so his wife always had a jealousy for me cos, well.. i am kinda good looking too and get along with her huisband more than her tiny finger can..she is not generally a friends friend,shes liek a little napolean who will say things to people on theior face cos she thinks shes right , and most of the time she may be,.. she is strict hijaabi and considers a man and woman engaing in talk as DEFYING GOD ..and doesnt think twice before insulting a friendly man who says a lil bit more than just a hello.. so that her description…

now she found out thru some msgs on her hubys phone that he talks to me regularly..he didnt tell her that he does , to me and to many other female friends from uk from his uni… his collegues…just genrally men and women with no sinister intentions…she got upset, she tried calling me!!and even sent me a threatening msg cos she jumped to a conclusionnn that we were involved…no idea how that could be possible when were miiiiillllleeeeesssss away and have families of our own…anyways, i got worried hat she may do, and contacted him and told him to fix this… he did and told her some home truths about her to make her think…
but the ***** that she is, she goes, i dont like you talkign to other females, i dont liek you joking with them if i am not present..i dont care of you like it or not… i dont care if it hurts you to back off from your best friend…live a hurtful life!.. such a bully.. and this husbanmd pf hers earns in millions and has given her a life most of us can only dream of..all he wants is his freedom to be in touch with his friends.
so he told me yesterday that she the kind, who will tell you on your face to back off if she ever sees you… i am very infuriated at this..this is just bull****.who the hell is she to dictate me? she can treat her husband like a dorr mat but not me.
i want to know, how to reply to her in the same fiesty manner that she does without insulting her or hurting my best ever buddy in the whole world.???

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Why did you not marry your cousin?? if you have such problem leting him go.

I think is his wife who owns him NOT you. Keep your nose where it belongs.

every one would be happy.

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Re: jealous insecure wife

he wanted to actually..12 yrs ago before he got married to the 60yr old granny...but since my older sis wasnt married then, his parents didnt ask for my hand thinking my mom and dad would get hurt.

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Re: jealous insecure wife

so you did not got married to him?? yeah??

you need to remember that!!!!

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Re: jealous insecure wife

seriously woman, you need to back off. let the wife treat her man however she wants. you're not his wife, mind that.
sheesh.

You've been TRUMPED !!!!
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Re: jealous insecure wife

quick tip buddy...READ> BEST FREINDS! since we were kids! what you talking about letting go...and for cheating and having an affair one needs to be around physically!
common sense.

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damn straight!!! :lifey:

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Re: jealous insecure wife

nd he has no intentions of not being friendly anymore with his staff or social friends or me or anybody else..

First Things First
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he wanted to actually..12 yrs ago before he got married to the 60yr old granny...but since my older sis wasnt married then, his parents didnt ask for my hand thinking my mom and dad would get hurt.
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I was going to remark on how the definition of incest varies from culture to culture and how, if ANYONE accused me of doing something that I consider to be incestuous, I'd knock out his or her teeth, but this puts paid to that train of thought. I'm completely gobsmacked.

First Things First
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uhhh no, you don't. infidelity is infidelity and usually starts without having to sleep around.

surprised your husband hasn't stepped in and told you to take cool down your relationship with your COUSIN. if that man can't see the fine line between having fun and doing something else, then you need to grow up and show him that line.

Colors in your language
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Many "other woman" talk like this.....

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Re: jealous insecure wife

seem like YOU are jealous and not she is because she got him :)

oh and secondly for cheating you really dont need to be around physically. Cheating b/w Pakistan and UK is just about as easy as cheating with girl next door.

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So you were going to marry him but did not.

No matter how clean your intentions may be and no matter how much he tells you both he has no ill-intention, his wife may not buy it.

His wife has all the reasons to be worried and not necessarily jealous or bad.

Let him go!
Let this friendship crap go!

If you are friend to him then try not to disturb his family life.

Spend time with your husband and let him spend time with his wife.

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Wah! exactly! :)

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That was very polite of you Sara! :)

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:lifey:

she is Kick A$$ women she got her man left bulbli to while for THE PERSON SHE WANTED TO GET MARRIED.

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Re: jealous insecure wife

Regardless of how much you disagree, you should probably cut down the communication so she doesn't feel bad. Would you be happy if his marriage went really sour after this and ended up in divorce because you wouldn't cut contact with him?

Your choice.

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Yes, but both cousins have known each other much longer than they've known their respective spouses, and from what I can make of Bubli's post, the cousin's wife is essentially asking her husband to cut off contact with his own flesh and blood. That said, I don't think I would be on speaking terms with a cousin willing to marry his/her flesh and blood, let alone friendly terms, but there you have it.

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sometimes some relation/relatives become more important than flesh and blood...and wife is one of those ... please dont mix apples and oranges.

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Re: jealous insecure wife

Bubli, Where we all came from , and the forum you are in , what you are doing and what you are advocating is called infidelity.
No self respecting woman will tolerate the kind of relationship you are describing you maintain with your married cousin. ( inappropriate jokes and all) .
I am keeping religion , hijab , cultural background out of the picture. Even a feminist woman will not tolerate the kind of ownership you are declaring on her husband.
This woman would not mind if her husband was as intimate with a male cousin as you are with him.