things change once you get married. these two also have other history, namely how they were both almost bf-gf once and it seems like seh’s trying to re-live those glory years. now i’m not implying that her relationship with her husband is rough or whatever, but come on, she hasn’t gotten over the fact that 12 years ago something could have had happened?
Re: jealous insecure wife
guys and girls
a) i am not 'the other woman' not fair of you to judge me like that.
b) its not like i wanted to marry him... come on man..COUSIN :-/
c)didnt you just read.. she does not want him to talk to any other female..like out with a couple for dinner..he is only allowed to talk to her and not to the other female accompanying him.
d) i am the last person that could be jealous.
e) after this ordeal, you guys think liek we havnt talkkled about her concerns..?? the last thing i or him want is to wreck our lives...but all of a sudden no comm will confirm will be so odd.she will think ofcourse they were messign around.tsk tsk..
clear? or you guys want to call me something based on this particular sitch...not fair at all.
my question was on how to respond to her IF she confrints me, which she wont cos she has more at stake too, but if she does, i dont wish to insult her and more than that hurt my freidn., afterall, his wife.
That was very polite of you Sara! :)
:)
Im just saying.
this is the problem with people like you who judge… where the hell is my post did i ever mention we were potential gf/bf…
i am hee to ask for opinions and advise..not for people to sneer at me OR JUDGE me based on thisparticular situation…I DIDNT EVEN KNOW HE WANTED TO MARRY ME.
this is the problem with people like you who judge... where the hell is my post did i ever mention we were potential gf/bf... i am hee to ask for opinions and advise..not for people to sneer at me OR JUDGE me based on thisparticular situation...I DIDNT EVEN KNOW HE WANTED TO MARRY ME.
if people are not allowed to JUDGE or comment you from YOUR post, how can they JUDGE or comment about third person who did not even POST here?
guys and girls
a) i am not 'the other woman' not fair of you to judge me like that. b) its not like i wanted to marry him... come on man..COUSIN :-/ c)didnt you just read.. she does not want him to talk to any other female..like out with a couple for dinner..he is only allowed to talk to her and not to the other female accompanying him. d) i am the last person that could be jealous. e) after this ordeal, you guys think liek we havnt talkkled about her concerns..?? the last thing i or him want is to wreck our lives...but all of a sudden no comm will confirm will be so odd.she will think ofcourse they were messign around.tsk tsk..
clear? or you guys want to call me something based on this particular sitch...not fair at all. my question was on how to respond to her IF she confrints me, which she wont cos she has more at stake too, but if she does, i dont wish to insult her and more than that hurt my freidn., afterall, his wife.
I never called you the other women. but women who are mistresses usually do put down the wives so badly and glorify the man. u may not be sleeping with the dude, but ure certainly not an innocent person here.
Cousin or not, you may not have had feelings for him, but he certainly did for you since you said he wanted to marry you 12 years ago.
thats their concern. not yours.
you dont sound like it.
My best adivce for you would be to back off and leave him alone. if they have problems in tehir marriage....you dont want to be the cause of it, and you should never want your name to come up in tehir fights..which will, if u keep on being friendly with him.
nice execution sara. :D
I believe the poster stated that it was** her cousin** that “wanted to [marry her] 12 yrs ago before he got married to the” current wife. Don’t get me wrong: I’d disown my cousins for that kind of $hit, but I don’t think the poster has yet stated that the attraction was anything more than one sided on her cousin’s part.
If anything, it might be the other way around. The poster hasn’t yet stated that she felt any attraction to her cousin; it’s not like she stated that she herself was willing to propose all those years ago. If the cousin was at one point attracted to Bubli, then (even if no attraction remains) this is what is giving the wife in question cause for concern. At this point, the ball is in the cousin’s court, not Bubli’s.
Now excuse me while I go wash my eyeballs out with Lethe Water.
this is the problem with people like you who judge... where the hell is my post did i ever mention we were potential gf/bf... i am hee to ask for opinions and advise..not for people to sneer at me OR JUDGE me based on thisparticular situation...I DIDNT EVEN KNOW HE WANTED TO MARRY ME.
you need to re-read the stuff you wrote. you aren't saying these things, but it's clear that you are regretting the fact that he didn't talk to your parents. and are trying to put everything under the guise of "oh we are just friends and she's over-reacting"
she isn't over reacting. you are the one who is over stepping the boundaries. like sara said, he had feelings for you, and that's alarming. you knew and yet you carried on with your behaviour and now want to make it seem like the right woman is over reacting.
sad. just sad.
if people are not allowed to JUDGE or comment you from YOUR post, how can they JUDGE or comment about third person who did not even POST here?
hear hear!
I believe the poster stated that it was** her cousin** that "wanted to [marry her] 12 yrs ago before he got married to the" current wife. Don't get me wrong: I'd disown my cousins for that kind of $hit, but I don't think the poster has yet stated that the attraction was anything more than one sided on her cousin's part.
If anything, it might be the other way around. The poster hasn't yet stated that she felt any attraction to her cousin; it's not like she stated that she herself was willing to propose all those years ago.** If the cousin was at one point attracted to Bubli, then (even if no attraction remains) this is what is giving the wife in question cause for concern.** At this point, the ball is in the cousin's court, not Bubli's.
Now excuse me while I go wash my eyeballs out with Lethe Water.
dude have you ever seen a cousin-who-wants-to-get-married-to-another-cousin-secretly-relationship? i have and i've seen too many of them. it's never one sided. ever. the other party is always slyly wanting that relationhip to happen cuz it's just so damn cool and romantic pukes somehow somewhere someone told her why exactly that cousin didn't ask her parents. i doubt it was her parents. sooo don't you think she's trying to see what it could have been like?
i do agree with the bolded part. and that's why the poster needs to have some common sense and not blame the wife for acting appropriately and trying to salvage her relationship. cousins relationship breaks and no one really bats and eyelash. a husband and wife relationship breaks and the whole world goes topsy turvy.
I believe the poster stated that it was** her cousin** that "wanted to [marry her] 12 yrs ago before he got married to the" current wife. Don't get me wrong: I'd disown my cousins for that kind of $hit, but I don't think the poster has yet stated that the attraction was anything more than one sided on her cousin's part.
If anything, it might be the other way around. The poster hasn't yet stated that she felt any attraction to her cousin; it's not like she stated that she herself was willing to propose all those years ago. If the cousin was at one point attracted to Bubli, then (even if no attraction remains) this is what is giving the wife in question cause for concern. At this point, the ball is in the cousin's court, not Bubli's.
Now excuse me while I go wash my eyeballs out with Lethe Water.
Two three posts, and yet no sense?
Regardless if she had any feelings or not, at least it was from his side.
No sane woman will like her husband to communicate with a woman like that.
The wife has all the reasons to be upset about. And the poster is in turn talking about not insulting her as if she has the right to!!
I believe the poster stated that it was** her cousin** that "wanted to [marry her] 12 yrs ago before he got married to the" current wife. Don't get me wrong: I'd disown my cousins for that kind of $hit, but I don't think the poster has yet stated that the attraction** was anything more than one sided on her cousin's part.**
well there is little thig called "real world" where is evey thing is guys fault. Girl are always chased after. Even if they cant stop whining about their crush having a good life with some one else.
*well there is little thig called "real world" where is evey thing is guys fault. Girl are always chased after. * Even if they cant stop whining about their crush having a good life with some one else.
Welcome to the "real world", then.
Re: jealous insecure wife
Are you women for real??
wow.
God bless your husbands.
Re: jealous insecure wife
bubli24, whats your husbands take on this?
kher, the problem is both of you women are possessive for the same man. and if both of you take the same very man out of the equation then there wont be any insecurity and there wont be any possessiveness. but the thing is not only he was once interested in you but also you are not his wife.
let suppose the wheel of fate turns around (
) and you becomes his wife, would you let him interact with this woman who was once connected to him?
and its good if you live and let her live. just message HER HUSBAND on eid-shabarat. in fact even avoid that.
he wanted to actually..12 yrs ago before he got married to the 60yr old granny...but since my older sis wasnt married then, his parents didnt ask for my hand thinking my mom and dad would get hurt.
Then let him file for divorce and marry you, but, insisiting on keeping the "relationship" is pathetic.
dude have you ever seen a cousin-who-wants-to-get-married-to-another-cousin-secretly-relationship?
I'm fetching the Lethe water.
i have and i've seen too many of them.
Even one would be too many. Can I offer you some Lethe water?
it's never one sided. ever. the other party is always slyly wanting that relationhip to happen cuz it's just so damn cool and romantic
BETWEEN COUSINS?!? ON WHAT PLANET?!? o_O
**pukes **somehow somewhere someone told her why exactly that cousin didn't ask her parents. i doubt it was her parents. sooo don't you think she's trying to see what it could have been like?
I do agree with the bolded part.
i do agree with the bolded part. and that's why the poster needs to have some common sense and not blame the wife for acting appropriately and trying to salvage her relationship. cousins relationship breaks and no one really bats and eyelash. a husband and wife relationship breaks and the whole world goes topsy turvy.
Ultimately, it's the cousin whose wife who wants the cousin to cut off all contact with the poster, so clearly, the ball is in the husband's court: whether he decides to respect his wife's wishes (no matter how reasonable/unreasonable he finds them) or continue to contact his friends and family members (regardless of sex or gender), it's his decision to make, as (ultimately) it's his marriage that's on the line.
At the end of the day, this is a matter to be resolved between a man and his wife and not 3 dozen of us worked-up Guppies. Seacrest out!
I'm fetching the Lethe water.
Even one would be too many. Can I offer you some Lethe water?
BETWEEN COUSINS?!? ON WHAT PLANET?!? o_O
I do agree with the bolded part.
Ultimately, it's the cousin whose wife who wants the cousin to cut off all contact with the poster, so clearly, the ball is in the husband's court: whether he decides to respect his wife's wishes (no matter how reasonable/unreasonable he finds them) or continue to contact his friends and family members (regardless of sex or gender), it's his decision to make, as (ultimately) it's his marriage that's on the line.
At the end of the day, this is a matter to be resolved between a man and his wife and not 3 dozen of us worked-up Guppies. Seacrest out!
lol
trying to imply here something?
'nuff said 
I didn’t know hipster catchphrases came with built in implications, but I can only imagine that in your mind it must be something scandalous. 'Nuff said.