jealous insecure wife

you need to re-read the stuff you wrote. you aren't saying these things, but it's clear that you are regretting the fact that he didn't talk to your parents. and are trying to put everything under the guise of "oh we are just friends and she's over-reacting"

she isn't over reacting. you are the one who is over stepping the boundaries. like sara said, he had feelings for you, and that's alarming. you knew and yet you carried on with your behaviour and now want to make it seem like the right woman is over reacting.
sad. just sad.