Do you mind being given an allowance by your spouse?
Or do you want to have just as much control over finances as he does?
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if i work then the i should have equal control or i don't then the jab karch :D
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It's humiliating for women to stay home all day and have nothing to do and then given a fixed allowance like she is an employee or worse, maid.
She must have full control of all the money :)
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If she gives you “jayb kharch” and hides his account info and doesn’t give you access to it…then it’s a problem…
but if he gives you “jayb kharch”, and you have POA or an joint account and you’re free to take out however much you want…then that’s perfect!
That shows he trusts you. The bottom line is he has to have love and respect for you, and he has to be concerned about your needs and wants…He has to be considerate.
Does that make sense…Hmm..
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I get jayb kharch AND control the finances :D
Meaning, I have access to the accounts...I know everything that is in there...he doesn't get direct deposit so I'm the one going to the bank adn depositing the checks. I "pay" the bills when they come.
However, that doesnt mean that I am just "free" to spend however the heck I want whenever I want. There's trust on both ends.
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Depends who is more mature in dealing with finances.
Most women if they are given the control on money are better than men in money management. At least they give great advice.
my khala worked for years before she got married, so she used to find it really awkward to ask khaalu for money, like she never even asked her own dad for money, she took care of her own finances… so after marriage, she simply sat down with khaalu and told him how she feels asking him for money and since that day, khaalu simply puts the money in an envelop and leaves it in a drawer for her and she takes care of all the household finances/shopping etc from that envelop 
its like a mini bank account within the house… she doesn’t have to ask him for money neither does he inquire how and where she spends… she just withdraws a certain amount from that envelop and off she goes! lol
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Personally i will feel humiliating for a girl if she asks for money or lives in limited budget. either she should have equal control or the huby should be sensible enough that he give her enough finances that not let her ask for more ..
I get jayb kharch AND control the finances :D
Meaning, I have access to the accounts...I know everything that is in there...he doesn't get direct deposit so I'm the one going to the bank adn depositing the checks. I "pay" the bills when they come.
However, that doesnt mean that I am just "free" to spend however the heck I want whenever I want. There's trust on both ends.
Yeah, same here...that's the way it should be. Trust has to be both ways.
I also think its humiliating for girls to ask money from husband ...why cant the husband have a joint account and the wife can withdraw money when ever she need it (ofcourse she should not spend all the money) ...
i have a friend who was discussing this topic with me...she was telling me her husband just give him a little money which is just enough for her to do the grocery shopping....she said if she need anything for her self she had to ask him for money and sometimes she feel awkward to ask....
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Jayb Kharch is for kids not for spouse!
I also think its humiliating for girls to ask money from husband ...w*hy cant the husband have a joint account and the wife can withdraw money when ever she need it (ofcourse she should not spend all the money) ...*
i have a friend who was discussing this topic with me...she was telling me her husband just give him a little money which is just enough for her to do the grocery shopping....she said if she need anything for her self she had to ask him for money and sometimes she feel awkward to ask....
good one .. :)
Jayb Kharch is for kids not for spouse!
par kuch biwiyo ko jayb kharch milta hai....for those who are house wife...
My dad gives my mom a good amount for house hold expenses , all is in her hands. Since he pays the utility bills he keeps a certain amount with him too . He also gives my mom some money which is for her only and I feel that this is the way it should be. I have never seen a fight or argument over money in my house.
When I was married I did not get any money from him , he kept what he earned and took some part of my earnings too. He used to get grocery once in two months & after that he never used to buy anything. If I need any meat or other thing for cooking etc I had to get it from my own pocket. All the finances were in his control. It was tooo frustrating , I have never asked for money from my parents and I never got the courage to ask from him money for the household expenditure too it was very humiliating for me to ask for money so I always ended up spending from my own pocket even after giving him a major share of my salary in the beginning of the month. I feel the finances should be shared the husband should trust his wife , after all whatever she will spend she will bring in house only and if she spends a little on herself there is nothing wrong with that.
In homes where husband and wife trust each other there is BARKAAT & it is true because Allah surely sends his blessings in such homes.
My dad gives my mom a good amount for house hold expenses , all is in her hands. Since he pays the utility bills he keeps a certain amount with him too . He also gives my mom some money which is for her only and I feel that this is the way it should be. I have never seen a fight or argument over money in my house.
When I was married I did not get any money from him , he kept what he earned and took some part of my earnings too. He used to get grocery once in two months & after that he never used to buy anything. If I need any meat or other thing for cooking etc I had to get it from my own pocket. All the finances were in his control. It was tooo frustrating , I have never asked for money from my parents and I never got the courage to ask from him money for the household expenditure too it was very humiliating for me to ask for money so I always ended up spending from my own pocket even after giving him a major share of my salary in the beginning of the month. I feel the finances should be shared the husband should trust his wife , after all whatever she will spend she will bring in house only and if she spends a little on herself there is nothing wrong with that.
In homes where husband and wife trust each other there is BARKAAT & it is true because Allah surely sends his blessings in such homes.
why you had to give your salary to him....
It's humiliating for women to stay home all day and have nothing to do and then given a fixed allowance like she is an employee or worse, maid.
She must have full control of all the money :)
How is humiliating for women to stay at home and to take care of the household & family?
I get jayb kharch AND control the finances :D
Meaning, I have access to the accounts...I know everything that is in there...he doesn't get direct deposit so I'm the one going to the bank adn depositing the checks. I "pay" the bills when they come.
However, that doesnt mean that I am just "free" to spend however the heck I want whenever I want. There's trust on both ends.
Same goes between us. Although, I pay the bills myself, and she takes care of everything else.
No , not at all . Rather I’ll feel lucky 
