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Lol at nothing special is given to the groom. Hadd hoti hai. :smack:

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Belan to laazmi hai! :D

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In Hindi and Hindus, the term 'Kaniya daan' says that brides family is on giving side and best they daan (give) is their kaniya (daughter). But this daan (giving) is shadowed for other worldly items like money, gold, furniture, etc

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Groom, Bride are not object… I don’t consider them dowry item… :emmy:

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Not object, but the line ‘groom is not given anything special’ means that ‘wo bechara to muft main maara gaya, ghate ka sauda kar ke’.

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so did you ask her family not to give these items? :5:

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most urdu speaking families do not follow this dowry concept :k:

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You mean they don’t give dowry to their daughters or they just keep items of dowry limited.

BTW, I just found this blog

Dowry with a lil’ Drama | OBSESSION99

Hazaron khwahishen aisi :hehe:

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bilkul bhe nahi atleast all the weddings I have attended I know they just rukhsatify their daughters with few clothes(to attend parties after their wedding), limited gold according to affordability for the bride not for SIL or MIL.

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just logged in to comment on this post :omg: :rotfl:

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is it with all urdu speaking families or from some specific quarters like UP walas, delhi walas or Hyderabadi. I know this girl (whose parents belong to Hyderabad) and she took loan for her sister's wedding and to purchase items like furniture.

Then there was a friend of my sister (belonging to Urdu speaking community probably Bihari) and she told my sister that her in-laws kept on sending list of items for dowry.

An other colleague asked us to contribute for dowry of a poor girl to arrange furniture.

I know for sure that Memon are on top of the list when it comes to giving dowry to their daughters.

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:hehe:

No demand and no asking… and convince them that please don’t give anything and try to shortlist their items…

Giving gold items and watches to in-laws is not Urdu speaking tradition… Mostly, Punjabies do that…

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They were all biharis that I know, tention free weddings.
Second award goes to Punjabis :hehe:

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very nice! a true culture MOD :salute:

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You mean for extravagance in the name of dowry?

Okay, I also remember this Urdu speaking Pathan friend (whose parents migrated from Agra). They gave furniture, Air condition, etc to their daughter and when their brother got married their Bhabhi also brought these items.

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didn’t you see that list in post no 4 :naraz:
That’s excluding gold and bari :bummer:

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so that was specific to Punjabi weddings. :hmmm:

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yes

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Even I don't think gold and girls dress are dowry. These are her personal use items.

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gold for in-laws