Okay, we all know that Jahez is a curse and almost everyone want that practices like these be eradicated. Neither religion nor other moral codes support such practices.
I heard and watched in movies / dramas that there is this trend that groom’s family come up with list of items to be given in dowry that ranges from property (makaan, dukaan, etc) to car and other luxury items.
I just wanted to know that what does these list include nowadays?
What are the minimum items that groom’s family expect from bride’s family?
Does the list and items change from one community to other?
From kitchen items (crockery,electronics including fridge,deep freezer) to bedroom furniture (double bed with dressing table) to dining table and sofa set…for some the list goes on
That depends on the groom’s family even if they say they don’t need anything it means they do unless they make it clear.All kind of people exists but I don’t think bride’s family can do much in this regard.
We don’t give or expect jahez in our family so it can definitely be avoided.. When my parents married nothing like that was given in that generation either..
I’ve heard of families asking for cars and motorbikes
No such list have ever been given / exchanged in our family. 80% of marriages are within family, but even in remaining cases, no such list exists.
My Amma didn't bring any furniture in her dowry. baqol my sister (whom I just consulted for details) us waqt furniture ka rivaaj nahin tha. lols. She was given few gold rings and jhoomar (my sister says: uss waqt 6-8 tole ki angothiyan bunti thi aur jhoomar bhi ek tolay wale nahin hote the aaj ki tarah).
My Khala who got married in 90s was given a room set and two gold sets. (As per my sister: She contributed to some extent from her salary). No TV, fridge, were given in dowry.
My Maamoos who got married in 90s and in last decade, they all arranged furniture / room set, etc themselves. Their wives were given gold, utensils and some joRas by their parents. All my cousins (daughters of baRe maamoo) were not given any furniture by maamoo.
Two of my chachas, who got married in 1980s and 1990s, also arranged everything themselves. My taaya's daughter who got married some 7-8 years back was given room set, 2 gold sets, 4 gold bangles.
One of parents cousin got married in late 90s and she was given 4 gold sets, furniture, etc. Her dowry (which was at display during buri's rasm) contained a jhaRoo, kachara uthane wali plate, etc. A Hindu lady commented after seeing all this 'tum musalmanon ne to hum Hindo'on ko bhi peeche choR diya'.
There is this custom in Sindhi about dowry that maternal relatives (naneehaal) of bride give her some items which include a suit, a steal bowl for drinking water, a plate, surma dani. I don’t know whether all Sindhis follow this, but my naani does follow this.
serious answer do. aap ko sasuraal ki taareefon ke liye nahin bulaya
