Jaheiz Furniture

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plz share pics of latest designs of furnitures for jaheiz , beds, chairs, sofas, dining set etc

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this is crazy!

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seriously? for jaheiz?? wow

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Is this a joke of some sort?

Why only jahez? Why not take some goats, camels and a cow too?

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i know in pakistan they give everything from a teaspoon to fridge/furniture,tv etc etc etc etc lisst is sooooooooooooooo long i dont understand who has created this tradition :mad3: :kursi: and parents think like a old zamana wala scene .. “loug kia kahenge” do hell with the “loug” … bicharey parents
I wish we could follow Arabs in this matter,boy’s side gives everything means EVERYTHING house/money/ jewellery etc etc to a girl in order to get married if by any chance he cant fulfil these things then the rishta is rejected these things are like basic requirements for shadi

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:D that's quite funny. i have no idea but do parents usually keep their sons' rooms empty until they get married, or what?

where this jahez things fit in the house, or what happens to the old ones already in use??

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I guess parents before gave so many things so to make the life easier for the couples after marriage. To kind of "set-up" the newly weds house... as newly weds do not have that much of a financial stability.. so practical things like the things they might need on a day to day basis, furniture, kitchen items, clothes etc etc..... some how over years and centuries this got twisted to the sickening ritual called dowry.

While i think it is perfectly fine for a parent to give what ever they can to their daughter, for the boys' parents to expect anything is totally wrong. when my sister got married she gave her nada. And I mean nada. Well the logic , she was shifting form Bahrain to London into a fully furnished home of her in laws, in fact everyone at the wedding gave cash as all our family knew there was no way in hell she was carrying odd things like crockery and toasters in her luggage with her.

Of course basic gifts were exchanged. But nothing that cost more than $ 200 for each family member.

And after my sister shifted to london and as and when she needed new saris to wear , whenever my mother went to India she got for her requested list of stuff, then when my sister moved into her own house, my mother asked her if she needed any of those typical stuff like the Indian cooking utensils , a small temple for the house , Ganeshji ki murthy etc etc..... masalas the usual....

hahah come to think of it the only things my sister's mil ever asked for were for dry fruits from bahrain... hahahaha

more than in laws i think its family members who ask people residing abroad for stuff... my maasi in india( mom's sister ) would even ask us to get air freshener form here for her

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Apparently so, mum was saying some people in Pak, when they build a new house or whatever they don't bother to furnish it, as they are like larki ki shaadi karengi & then they will fill it. Sounds really bad, but apparently is what happens.

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It's true, I remember my cousins nikkah was postponed because the Haq Mahr cheque the guy gave her had not cleared in the bank, it wasnt anything dodgy, she just had one of those stupid building society accounts that took 7 working days for a cheque to clear.
Not all Pakistanis follow this jaheez business, my inlaws did not accept anything from their daughter in laws and paid all the wedding costs too.

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[quote="starberry1, post:3399, topic:223963"]

Apparently so, mum was saying some people in Pak, when they build a new house or whatever they don't bother to furnish it, as they are like larki ki shaadi karengi & then they will fill it. Sounds really bad, but apparently is what happens./QUOT
DITTO ur are very right.

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[quote="sarab, post:3423, topic:223963"]

It's true, I remember my cousins nikkah was postponed because the Haq Mahr cheque the guy gave her had not cleared in the bank, it wasnt anything dodgy, she just had one of those stupid building society accounts that took 7 working days for a cheque to clear.

Not all Pakistanis follow this jaheez business, my inlaws did not accept anything from their daughter in laws and paid all the wedding costs too./QUOTE

but if u are living in PK YOU have tooooo give as much as u can :(.Abhi b bcoz the number of people who dont want any thing are very little and even i have seen people that just say humain kuch nahi chiye app nay jo apny marzy say dayna hay bety ko dain dain and that explain the story .
There are cases when MIL have said we dont want nay thing and when the girl side didnt gave after shady they just tortured her by always always telling that hum nay kuch nahi liye i mean nahi liya to app ko sawab ho gha why showing ur self telling every one that app bohat acchay hain and then batoon batoon may kha dayna like they use to say mazak kar rahay hain kay u didnt bring this or that ...huhhh...
i just hate it.

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I think a lot of girls are forgetting about bari. Most girls get A LOT! Aside from the valima jora/set/accessories, there are several heavy suits, matching shoes and accessories with almost every suit, more jewelery, make up, etc. And there’s also haq mehr. I don’t know of anyone that has said: please, don’t give us anything for bari, or set the minimal haq mehr only.

I certainly don’t mean to suggest that the guys side should EXPECT jahayz, but most girls parents do it anyway, usually clothes and jewels. You usually only wear each dress once, so wouldn’t it be better to give useful things like furniture or to help set the couple up?

To the original poster, I don’t think a lot of us get furniture and accessories in our jahayz. The trend here (States/Canada) is for the girl to move in with in-laws, who already have everything set up, or for the couple to move out on their own and take care of everything themselves.
Most of the boutique shops with really great furniture don’t have sites, but here’s a few sites you can check out for a contemporary look.
http://www.crateandbarrel.com/furniture/
http://www.urbanbarn.com/products/Living-Room

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i m not getting anything from inlaws…
they were gonna make clothes for me but my fiance was like nooo she will get stuff from online and I will give her money for it.. turns out he thinks they only have to give me 1 outfit for shaadi and thts all. idk how to say anything because I dont want to be greedy.

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AHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA!!!

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:D

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You know it is quite sad that even in this time of era people still believe in giving "jahaiez" with their daughter. As if giving their daughter to the guy is not enough that they need to add on furniture etc to it. I am aware that there are some really illiterate people out there that will give tannas to the girl if she didnt bring all these things with and girls parents are afraid of that happening so they give all these things. Personally, I think if the in laws are the kind of people that are gonna give her tanas for such things then its better that she doesn't get married or get out of the house. Because guess what? if they are the kind to give tanas, they will do it regardless if you give her loads of jahaiez, they will find a reason to torture her.
and seriously, I despise this phrase "log kiya kahiengay" Our society and parents worry way too much about what will others think.
When I was getting married, my husband strictly said no to these kinda things, and even after my own parents pushing us for it. We did not take it. Because what kinda daughter will I be to put the financial burden on my parents shoulders just so I can start a great life with my husband.
Sad that many people don't even think about it.

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I can't blv, people still do it.. jehaz n stuff..
All i was given was clothes, gold etc. And my parents gave us some money to spend on ourselves! No furniture!

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I keep telling my mom I don't need that much stuff..but she has been collecting house stuff for me over the years...(dinner sets, kitchen machines etc) and I'm the only girl...so she just wants to give me whatever makes her heart happy.
As for furniture, told her its not necessary, but idk what she'll do. I'm moving between two different countries so it would be pointless to set up two houses

But agree with most posters... pointless for guy's family to demand big stuff like that...esp car etc. Ridiculous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But for OP....go for the bare min basics if your family insists... Bed/cupboard/dresser in a good quality wood. Forget the overly ornate styles. Stick with classic and you can match anything.

For the rest, your husband should be able to provide for you.

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Yeah, it still happens quite a bit apparently.

I just don’t understand why. Why take jahaiz period? Why don’t girls understand the real meaning behind it? As a woman, you’re not enough. You need to add value to your package - sweeten the deal - by bringing jahaiz with you. When women take jahaiz, they’re trying to convince their inlaws of their worthiness to marry into their families…its such an aggravating practice. Its an evil that actually prevents women from marrying in Pakistan…no jahaiz means no rishtas. I do think girls should be more responsible and say no to their parents for jahaiz also…it can only help.

As far as bari is concerned…Ive never seen larki walay getting greedy and asking for bari. Bari is a gift from the inlaws to the girl and they usually give whatever they want. The larki walay dont dare set conditions on bari for fear of losing a rishta. Jahaiz on the other hand is usually whatever they inlaws hint at.

Any family that wants jahaiz from me…does not deserve me. :snooty:

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ditto Reha..