Jaheiz Furniture

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ditto Reha. I also think guys should stand up for themselves and say no to jehaiz. Seems like begairti to me that you cant even buy decent stuff for you own home to have to rely on your in-laws for that stuff.

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same goes for us men - all the girls looking for hefty bari (51 joray and gold/diamond sets )dont deserve us :snooty:

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I think it is okay for parents to gift whatever they can afford and no one needs to judge them. On the other hand, I think it is wrong to expect that the girl should bring xyz with her.

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Even if parents are rich and they could afford it in all probability - they shouldn't over do it - they should lead the modest approach and must not dot the i's and cross the t's when it comes to Jehaz ..

Such behavior also tempts families to get their lads wed-locked in rich families !

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No one in my family has ever demanded a single thing or set conditions. Whatever inlaws wanted to gift, they did. Whatever my parents wanted to gift the BILs, they did.

Its the unreasonable things like furniture, air conditioner, car, etc etc etc that makes marriages into business contracts.

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:hmmm:…so the girl should marry only into the Rich people..??

so the guy has to be rich enough to have all the appliances,furniture etc of a new ‘separate’ house/portion of the house for the newly married couple…right ??

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That's not the expectation most people have.

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The aim of the thread was not to discuss this but to post some pictures of furniture,it would be much better next time if you all can open a separate thread for separate discussions :)

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^what's the difference between jahez furniture and any new furniture?

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No. If they’re moving into their own place why don’t the families **share **the cost or the couple can save up and buy things slowly..

If moving in with inlaws how did they manage furniture-wise before the girl moved in??

Does one extra person require so much extra stuff to be bought?? If some other family member (eg cousin or grandparent) moves in why aren’t they also required to buy appliances and furniture? Oh yeah, stupid me only us DILs are such a burden..

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and the girl's side part of sharing being 'jahez'......would that be acceptable to you?

No...doesn't require that......requirement is there only if the 'one extra' person has to live in a separate portion/room...and wants her own space....

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That shouldn't be excessive either..

She's living there with the son, it's not as tho she has her own cordoned off private area for herself (and besides here in the UK the girl often just moves into the boy's bedroom ie one single room that's already furnished, it's obviously not normal for her to get her own kitchen when living at inlaws so don't see why she'd need to bring extra appliances, furniture and so on)..

Like I said if they move into their own place both sides should share the cost..

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sooner or later…they do have to move out (usually)…so that means u are not against jaheiz then :eek:

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some guys demand it. one of my friends took rs 10 lakh with her for furniture, because the groom said they would be living in a separate portion of the house. turns out she was given a small bedroom right in the middle of the house, and the beautiful new portion was given to the sister of the groom who had gotten divorced! How sad is that? And the groom clearly demanded the money!

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^ hmm........ thats interesting...... how is their marriage going nowadays??

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now the groom wants a house, and they've been married for two years, now the daughter herself asks the parents why she cant have the house, and whats so wrong if her husband demands whats rightfully theirs?
What can one say?
sad day for parents when their own blood thinks like this

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^ the girl clearly needs a wake-up call.

It;s such a shame!

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Alhumdulliah I did not take a big bari from my inlaws and told my parents no jaheiz either. My husband and I agreed that we did not want either side to spend more than they needed to. My parents gave me some gifts and my husband and his side did the same. My parents paid for barat and mehendi and his parents paid for our valima. I personally know someone whose family gave quiet a hefty sum of money and gold to inlaws family and yet they still weren't happy enough. Sometimes you can give a lot and the other end will still complain!

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:k:

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***Ok, so this thread got derailed. I’ll post a few pics for the OP as she wanted them. For others, it is still the norm in Pakistan to include pieces of furniture in jehaiz. Whether it is right or wrong, is another discussion.