Hakuna bhai, ye itihaas ki sabse badi uplabdhiyan hoti hain. Koi larki 75:25 ke anupat wali class me first aati hai toh logo ke larkiyo ko kamtar dekhne wale najariye mai badlaw aa jata hai. Isitarah dahej ki kupratha se samaj ko nijaat dilaane ke liye aise kadam bahut jaroori hai. Sarkar niyam banaati hai apni jagah hai par ham voluntarily ise rokein toh sone pe suhaga hai. Indian govt dahej ko kuchh is tarah samajhti hai ki manga jane par shadi me diya jane wala paisa (ya saman ya kuchh b valuable cheej). Yaha dahej mai shadi me apni marji se diye jane wale hasiyat ke mutabik presents shamil nahi hai. Par mujhe lagta hai ki is tarah aap dahej pratha ko khatm nahi kar rahe balki use less severe bana rahe ya yun kahein ki kanooni amlijama pahna rahe hain. Mera ek college ka batchmate kahta hai ki use larki wale itne paise de rahe hn..koi itna toh koi itna..but wo uske masters ke liye ruka hua h..complete ho jane pe use promotion milega..ya switch karega toh r “achche” rishte aaenge. Yaha wo dahej mang nahi rha..aur shayad “presents” larki walo ki hasiyat me bhi hon, unki financial conditions pe koi burden b na padta ho. Aise hi laalach badta jata hai r dahej pratha bani rahti hai..dand sirf use milta hai jo dahej mangta ho r jo hasiyat se jyada deta ho. Aisi kuprathao ko rokne k liye meri samajh me do tareeke hn ek toh dande ke jor pe (jaise ki sati pratha khatm ki) r doosra samajik chetna (convincing, educating etc jaisa ki aap kiye r kar rahe hain) r dono ek saath.
Bachcho ko kaabil banana chahiye..wo kisi pe dependent nahi hon. Rahi baat jaroorat padne pe madad ki toh rishtedar, dost, NGO, community, sarkar wagerah karte hi hn r na bhi karein toh khud pe bharosa hona chahiye.
Bro, baat zarurat ki nahi haq ki hai.. why do men always get the share from parents ? girls ka bhi haq hai.. so jahaiz ki bajaye unhein unka haq de dena chahiyey, married hon ya nahi doesnt matter… parents ko apni zindagi me hi share de dena chahiyey unka…
Change is not an overnight process, but a step by step one. We need to change the current youth, who are aur future old. Moreover, If the guy refuses jahaiz, parents can’t demand it. Our youth have their own ways to get to their parents.
No no no… Not “de dena chahiyey”. Unka haq banta he nai jab tak dad ba-hayaat hain. Kisi ka haq nahi uss paise pe jab tak dad is alive.
Beti aur betay… Sab ko unha haq milna chahiyey after the dad has passed away. Islam mai inheritance ka clear diya hua hai.. Kiska kitna hai.
Zarorat parne pe tou koe rok tok nahi.. Jab zarorat parey tab kisi k bhi parents help kr sakte hain… That is not jahaiz.
Jahaiz the idea has been perverted by us desis to no end. It has been turned into a farmaaishi program where the guy’s family let loose their wet dreams. Jahaiz is a gift the bride’s family gives to her to help her with her life. It is her property and she shares with her husband if she feels like it.
You change moods fast. Lol you just need some motivation. I started working out harder when I saw this girl I knew from high school, she used to be easily 200lbs or so back then and now she is fit as a fiddle. She inspired me to lose all the weight I put on in college.
I think people who demand Jahaiz and also those who give jahaiz even when its not demanded , are in the same boat of Jahalat .
I know , i know , the supporters will come out to say , beti ko jo marzi dai , baap ki marzi hai . etc etc
But hey , look around you , someone gave jahaiz willingly and it became the norm of the society , simple jahaiz became a rat race , bigger jahaiz , unaffordable jahaiz . Jis ko deina hai beiti ko , why dont you just put an amount in her account so she can use the money for genuinely good reasons later in life?
we are three sisters and Alhumdullillah all married and the biggest pleasure it gives me to share that my father’s all three damaad’s didnt ask for a penny of Jahaiz and this in itself is the biggest character statement of the three damaad’s . Because the society we live in is very selfish . If not the man himself , his mother and sisters will keep urging to get samaan and jahaiz . Shunning Jahaiz is not something every man can do , it takes courage to break the norms.
it’s actually kinda chaT mangni paT shadi, so he said it the day they came to see him… so they havnt spend much :k:
InshaALLAH, I wont stop
lol, sorry my bad
you’re damn right, but usually kids follow their parent’s foot steps and this goes on and on.. but yes we must try our best to stop this dowry thing…
Well, I think Quran and Hadith teach us to give the shares to your children before you die.. this is a best solution.. and let us talk about the other way around.. If a boy needs his share while his brothers are having it and dad is still alive.. So does he have to kill his father to get his share ??
Kami bhai why would I lie ? jab hogi to aapko ladoo khila dunga
mashaALLAH, and yes you’re right, it’s all about society, jahaiz na do tab baatein kerte hain and agar na lo to larki wale ye soch soch ke darte hain keh kahin hamari beti ko jahaiz ka tana na mil jaye… it must be stopped…
jab hogi to aapko ladoo khila dunga 
