I've had it!! Enough is enough

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Re: I’ve had it!! Enough is enough

@RoseAli

Since my FIL has came, I’ve fallen into depression. I have tried everything and tried to be calm during his visit and got myself busy in baby and normal routines. He’s on his mission to criticize and patronise on my everysingle little things

1. Apparently I can’t cook properly. My husband has never complained about this before and infact he used to compliment on my signature dishes. Now every now and then i make those dishes again, My FIL has some brainwashed my hubby that that;s not proper dish etc.. she hasn’t made this like or that… I made a steak once and my husband really liked it and casually said Aaj yeh bohat maze ka bana hai… n my FIL goes hmm haan lekin agar aise hota to aur maza ka hota. Jaise tumhari maa …
2. Valentines day! The day I am looking forward to the most and have some alone time for hubby. My hubby had left it to me for restaurant planning. I had cooked food for my FIL and he didn’t once opted to babysit my baby while me and hubby can go out.. Instead he inteferred in my restuarant choices and said he wanted to go there.. He also went with us.. My hubby is ofcourse his chamcha, never saying no or standing up to his dad.
3. Since he came he has never bought anything of my baby not a dime!
4. My FIL doesn’t believe in non halal restaurants… he says all restaurants are halal.. My hubby doesn’t object to this and eat haram meat with his dad while I always opt for vegetarian option. This makes me upset, what kind of example are we setting for my baby?!
5. Me and my hubby, I feel like we are being more distant and we fight more often. My husband often speak shouts at me infront of his father and I swear once i saw him smile seein us fight..

I dont know what to do.. am running out of patience… I feel like I am loosing my hubby..

No. 1: Your husband shouldn’t behave this way. You should take it easy. So what if he doesn’t like your food and compares it to his wifes?

Valentines day .. Expecting your FIL to babysit your baby? Yeah not really going to happen.

Not buying you and the baby anything .. Does it really matter? Are you lacking in anything?

Husband shouting - again really bad behavior from your husband. He’s not a little boy anymore.

Everything else which you mentioned is really not a big deal. As someone wrote, just nod and smile. I don’t think you should take it to the heart.