It's "your day"!

[somegroovychick]

Re: It’s “your day”!

@kakee

again you missed my point
I’m not the typical bridezilla I have done my research I just don’t see myself doing pointless traditions that are kinda irrelevant to me.

I don’t want my way with everything but if I’m paying for it then I do get a say especially since my SOs parents have already had 4 other wedding functions that they’ve planned and done (3 brothers and 1 sister) and I’m not the first foreigner in the family + mother adoring me helps.

My family wants what I want (my mother didn’t have a “traditional” wedding) and my views on weddings are that both parties groom and bride get to choose and yes my in-laws can have a say since they know more about venues than I do but I do have things that I prefer.

For instance I rather have the functions in-doors than out because its easier to decor and it wouldn’t be a huge mess with seating etc but I wouldn’t throw a fuss if it was outdoors as long as my skin doesn’t touch the grass (allergic reactions)
I’m not worried about the food or what I’m going to put in the wedding because my in-laws family are not backward just because they live in Pakistan. I’m not the first foreigner in the family and won’t be the last.. and considering I don’t really care about the guest list any more I’m not worried nor stressed.

i don’t think i implied that you were a bridezilla or that your inlaws were backwards because they were pakistani. you sounded like you were unsure of the wedding traditions so i simply pointed out that the forum is a great place to ask any questions you might have.