it's hard to say goodbye.

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I m a girl from a middle class pakistani family and i like a guy from india.most of the people suggest me to leave him . How can they say this? Is it so easy to leave someone who is so close to you and wanna spend whole his life with you.i always thought to marry someone who ll love me . Now today when m getting this love i have to leave him . :frowning: how to make my parents agree ? Because i hate goodbyes :cry:

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Too many Hindi films, love. I'd cut down if I was you. :)

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The whole world asked me to leave my love and I did not, listen to only your heart. Any one of my child can marry whoever they love regardless of race religion or culture, better to have loved and lost rather than to have never loved...put up a big damn fight.

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Yes OP, listen to hottie.

Go fight your parents for a dude you hardly know and have never met.

Leave everything behind for him.

In the end the entire village will dance behind the two of you and you will live happily ever after.

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LOL!

He has a point though, are you willing to go against everyone you know for a guy you hardly know? You need to think whether it is worth it or not, if you come to the conclusion that it is then by all means go ahead.

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^you forgot the rain Le Pak :D

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If she doesn't know him then she doesn't love him, maybe it is infatuation, LE I don't understand, when you are a child you live with your parents, when you become an adult you leave your parents and start your own family, 18 here is an age of maturity so why is she not allowed to make that decision. If it really is love which I doubt then the parents should respect that.

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Who says you need to fight with your parents? Has no-one heard of** reasoning** with others :confused:

If the issue is a person’s race then that’s not a valid reason to turn them down anyway.. Having said that tho at 18 you should really be concentrating on your studies.. It might be infatuation, it might be more and only time will tell.. You need to be smart and keep studying.. IF you still want this guy later then give it a go and try and convince your family.. If it really is more than lust/infatuation he will wait for you..

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She must have tried reasoning, crying etc but I seriously doubt she really knows what love is, but if it is true love at last resort u fight till death for it, many people die without discovering true love. Why can’t he support
her education, one of my part timer assistant is 18, lives with bf, they are both taking professional education, their relationship did not hinder the education, If raised properly 18can be very mature, I get schooled by my 12 yr old on a daily basis

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kids make stupid decisions in so called “blind love” as they are far away from reality. :snooty:

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Hmm thanks all and hottie i know to love is to fight to be together. :) he loves me alot and i know he ll do everything for me:) in sha allah Alllah will make ways and things will be alright :) and i m so much depressed these days and looking at the comments of ppl making fun of me was too bad :( but yeah i never met him. I will meet him soon. In sha Allah ifit will be written in Our destiny to mert

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it's hard to say goodbye.

And yeah i m studying alhamdulillah.He is not a reason of disturbance in my studies. :)

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vat.

i have a question - if you are so desperate to fall in love with a guy you don't even need to meet once, why not just do it with the guy your parents find for you? everything would work out so smoothly.

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I am a nice guy, pakistani too.

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Well they keep telling me to respect their culture and the culture I see here is that if they see a vulnerable girl they want to kick her to the curb and offer to exploit her, you will make the right choice, 18 is not a child, it is an adult.

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:smack:

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Online talk is so very different from in person meetings. Do not base your life decisions about life partner/marriage on a few online chats with a person you've never met.

Your family members know you and love you. You aren't thinking clearly right now because you want to be loved or feel love so badly that you're making this tiny encounter with someone you've never met, you're making it about love. you can't base love on that. While you're clearing out this fog that you're in right now, your family is thinking practically for you.

Dont make this about love now. Meet this person in the real world not online a few times and see if you can see any compatibility and can you honestly see him as a life partner

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You are shoooo shoooo shooo shooo phunny!

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Wish I could make you open your eyes but I can't... You will learn from your own experience :)

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it's hard to say goodbye.

Yeah there is so much I want to say to you but I think it will fall on deaf ears. You are VERY young T. You really need to understand ALL of the implications pursuing this relationship would have on your life. Life will be really hard if your family doesn't approve and I don't even want to get started on the whole online thing. From one girl to the other, I was not the same person at 22 that I was at 18, and I am now not the same person that I was at 22. Enjoy your youth, enjoy your family, enjoy and pursue your dreams and explore different avenues to get there. Love will come when it's the time and you WILL be able to enjoy every moment of it, not be in a state of distress over somebody you have never met. Just can't stress that enough, but just hope your able to grow from this.