The problem is…no matter how much or how long you date…there WILL be surprises. Eliminating them is not possible. Thats the issue I see with dating. If you go in with the mindset that “I know everything about this person now and should fit right into his/her life”…it wont work. Guaranteed. The truth is, we dont know everything about them at all…adjustments are necessary in both scenarios…arranged and un-arranged. So, why not go into marriage with an open mind, ready and willing to accept whoever and whatever you get? Which is what happens in arranged marriages.
This is why dating just makes no sense to me. There have to be adjustments…so why not make them afterwards? After marriage, a couple gets to know each other all over again regardless of how long they date. So, why not just skip it and the drama?