So yesterday me and a friend of mine were talking and she said that she does not want to get married but would like to have a child and raise him/her as she wants to become a mother.
Why she does not want to get married is beyond me however I did ask her, how she is planning on having child without getting married? She said by artificial means. Then she told me that in Islam sexual intercourse before marriage is prohibited but according to her taking a fetus and implanting it in her would not be something going against the teachings of Islam and she will have her baby too.
She wants to give an egg and get a sperm from a sperm bank and use IV or something to get a fetus and then get pregnant even without getting married.
So any thoughts on this matter? Can she do this? Islamically and even in general what do you guys/gals think?
Has this sort of thing happened before?
At times i think why some people are soo mean,cheap,irritating,bums,n they love to deceive others?Some are stoic, some are very kind,some are emotional etc.
This is world and this is something really exciting.Otherwise world bohot boring hota na:D
She can do anything she wants.
Whether she wants to get married or not ,u know.
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So far,i have never come across anything like that 
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^bUT THE CHILD WILL BE ILLEGITIMATE, as she is won't be married to sperm donor.
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That is what I was wondering too! So it is not allowed in Islam? She should not go for it?!?
I am kind of worried about the kind of thought process she is having about this matter.
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I was wondering what would be the name of the child’s father/surname?
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That is a good point!
There are so many aspects to this:hmmm:
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teenage girls and their confused minds
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My friend is in her mid to late twenties and certainly not a teenager. I believe she is actually serious about doing this. This is why I was asking for the infamous life 1 forum's people's advice.
Icono niether am I a teenager(20) and niether am I single(married). Plus I am not confused:chai:
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since she is serious in doing this,then nothing can stop her 
hey .. you got married? when?
tum beech mein kahan say agaye :aq:
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LOL, he was saying confused teenagers so I thought Icono was talking about me:cb:
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IMO, it might not be a good idea as Islam places so much importance on the family structure being preserved and both father and mother playing major roles in the child's life. There is nothing wrong with a couple pursuing this route but a single mother...not so much.
If she does this, she has no father for the child. No father figure at all and that is not fair. Sometimes, women want to become mothers so badly - because its a natural instinct in us - we forget about the well being of the child. Is this good for the baby? What about a surname for the child? Financially, is she stable enough to have a baby? Does she plan on marrying at all? Will she be able to answer questions the baby will have at some point? What will her answers be? "I found your daddy in a test tube"...not good.
IMO, all it will do is fill a void the woman must be feeling in her life. Maybe she had a failed relationship that affected her badly? Maybe her father didnt play a very significant role in her life? Broken home? Betrayals? She might be looking for someone she can love that wont leave her. This child will be all hers now and she can love the baby to bits, no one can take that away from her. Is there something wrong with that? Technically no and yes. There is nothing wrong with that kind of love if it can benefit both parties.
Tell her to talk to single mothers around her.
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wow i am spell bound.. bon bon excellent post! :k:
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Shireeni,
It surely is possible (medically speaking) to go thru IVF (In-Virto Fertilization) and have a baby without having a husband and without knowing who the sperm donor is. There has been an extreme example of this in US news lately - have you heard of the "Octo-Mom"? She's a single unemplyed mother of 6 who went for more IVF and gave birth to a brood of 8 babies!!! A very extreme case for sure. Anyway, yes its possible.
As far as it being possible socially, that depends alot on her family, friends and the culture where she lives. Single moms seem to fare better and have more acceptance in western countries than they do in Pak.
Islaamically, I dont really know whether the child would actually be considered illegitimate. Probably. But Islaam is very accepting to orphans and actually any child in need right? So I'm thinking that perhaps the inheritance laws may come into play since inheritances come from the father and this child would have "unknown" listed in the birth certificate under Father and the child would take the surname of the mother. But I think the religion would want the child to be cared for and raised as a good Muslim.
...a bit off topic ... but why are the life1 mods "infamous"?
Alright Guys,
I did a little research to find out what Islam has to say about the topic of artificial insemination. If anyone is interested, I’ve included a link below that can hopefully help answer this question.
My understanding is that artificial insemination is permissible if the sperm and egg belong to the married couple. One article says: **
"Stressing the aforementioned facts, the prominent Saudi Islamic lecturer and author, Sheikh Muhammad Saleh Al-Munajjid, adds:
“If a third party, other than the spouses, involves in this process, such as when the sperm comes from another man, then fertilization in such cases is unlawful, because it is counted as Zina or adultery."
" Scholars have unanimously condemned the procedure in case a third party is introduced into the equation: That would be the case if either the sperm or egg involved in the above process were obtained from either man or woman who is not related to each other in marriage.”
**http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503545560
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We really shouldn't judge a person unless we are in their shoes. My main question is WHY does she want to have a child OUTSIDE of marriage? She is still young and can get married and should try to get married before having a child.
I can honestly say, if I was in my early thirties and still unmarried, I'd want to adopt a child...definetly would not go for artificial insemination though (the idea of some stranger's sperm inside me is just creepy).
I think no one should take away the joy of having kids for someone, yes it is not the ideal situation (having only one parent), but if she is financially able to raise the child and would provide it with all the love and care, who are we to judge? Life would be so depressing without a child of your own. I cannot imagine never having a child.
Are you Shirinee’s “that” friend?