Re: it was a wish from your grand-parents...
umer i dont' think you have been in a relationship then.. i am not talking about flirting here or crush i mean relationship.. when you are at your most worst situation.. that partner holds on to you .. our parents are humans too and no matter how much life experience they have they might not be making the best decisions its a 50-50 chance.. even our own decisions are 50-50.. but umer you have to understand the fact that marriage is ultimately a contract between the guy and a girl not the guy and girls parents or guys parent with girl..
so parents have to respect kids decision since they are the ones who are going to make decision together and if both of them are not even connected at the smallest level then Allah khair karay..
I have been through a lot of situations that no one except me and my Allah knows.. hard times, tough times.. but no tougher than what other ppl might be going through .. but these experiences have shaped my thinking .. positive or negative.. but they have .. similarly our parents must have gone through time that changed their thinking positive or negative but doesn' mean that what happen to them will happen to us..
everyone should really take a step back and think about it.. marriage is an important step of life for everyone in both the families involved but more IMPORTANT FOR THE GUY AND GIRL marrying.. so please my only request to parents is to just ask their kids once.. if they agree to what parents want then that's great but if not try to figure out why.. instead of labelling them 'na-farma-bardar'