it scares the crappers out of me

[amelie]

Re: it scares the crappers out of me

@cat-woman

marriage that is. Am I normal? most girls my age are ready and mature enough, and dying to get married. I was ready when I was 18, but thats because I was a naive little girl, but as of now the thought of spending my life with 1 person scares the sheeeeet out of me.

Help me to overcome my fear please because I am feeling the family pressure and they think when i say i dont wanna get married im being a typical shy desi girl who always says that prior to marriage.

caty…I was 31 when I got married, had dated my husband for a year before we were engaged, engaged one year…etc.

It is a SCARY thing. Lifetime commitment…it’s scary to think that you’re making a decision to be with someone for 50 years or more… I think the older you get the more you realize how different people are, how much you change over time..etc.

But to be honest, our first few years were rough, major major fights..but you work it out. You figure out each others idiosyncrasies/crazys…give and take..let go of some of your own and he does the same…in the end it’s one of the hardest things you can do BUT i can not imagine being with anyone else…and he makes me so happy. It’s a beutiful feeling to know you’re together.