istikhara

Tahurra · April 5, 2014, 10:44am

Re: istikhara

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Guilt is different from knowing in your heart whether you made the right or wrong decision. Any serious relationship outside marriage is wrong anyway … So to move away making space is the right thing to do … Calling off a marriage is another thing altogether, but it seems you cannot marry him due to how you know your family will react.

The best thing to do is to advise him to bring his family over or contact your parents if they have not yet made contact and formally ask your rishta. Put the decision in the fate of how their coming to ask you for your hand will work.

It is not advisable to run away with him … If that is what you are thinking of doing …

It’s not about knowing if he’s okay for you or not either … You obviously like him, that means he is okay for you … The question is, could there be anyone better that lies in your destiny? Or could he bad for you later on? Any questions you need to clear up between him and your two families first … Compatibility. You can of course pray for him and yourself to get married and for it to be successful …

But … Istikhara should be done in matters that you CAN choose, not can’t … If you can’t then it is out of your hands anyway. And if that is case then just pray for consoling of your heart and finding another quickly as just a normal du’a.

istikhara is done in the presence of all knowable knowledge obtained and rationally decided upon then to put trust in Him. This istikhara is for your parents to do since it is their decision initially and your choice is already made … The green light needs to come from them not in your dream …

After getting your green light parental consent then you must do istikhara … It is at that point you will get clear signs.

People ask the wrong questions all the time … Parents need to look for signs … and stylise their questions to be thinking deep into the future avoiding materialistic lines and focusing on character exclusively, material lines can be used as secondary measures or to decide between two similar rishtas>>

Thank u so much for such a long reply its all over because i know my family will never accept ..i told my mom and and she said leave him otherwise it will hurt you more in future..i left everything on Allah and trying to move on i m fine now and he’ll be fine too..i saw no positivity in this rishta at all..i never realized that it is not good for me and that i have to stay away from all haram relations and i left it finally made me sad made me feel guilty but as the time is passing i m getting over it..and now i feel my decision is correct ..did istikhara i offered all 5 prayers alhamdulillah..Ask Allah to guide me and i put my trust in HIS decision..everything is going to be alright ..i love my family a lot even more than anyone else in this world and they are my world ..
.i don’t want to that my relationship with my family gets disturbed because this !

May Allah strengthen your emaan grant you goodness in both world Ameen

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