The First Act for your duas to be Accepted is to become a 5 times Daily Namaazi. Salah is key to everything, agar 5 waqt ki namaz nahi to chaaeye Caror ha Caror nawafil istikharay bana karta rahay .. there will be no fruit.. First step is Salah and as brother here said .. to become a practicing Muslim. One cant just turn to Allah when they want something in return and expect it.. but rather one needs to be in continuous subservience to Allah at all times.
And again, Whatever one asks from Allah, it will come in 4 stages:
1. It will be granted right away
2. granted after a period of time
3. granted after death
4. not granted at all.
Now the one thing to note is..** If its in your best interest to have that thing/desire then Allah will grant it and if not then dont be complaining**, why because there is a Higher being at work who knows that something isnt for you. So saying didnt get 'the clear result' ..isnt really a faith in Allah but rather need to ask yourself are you worthy of it and if you are then like i mentioned the above 4 things. One is bound to happen.
i have a book called fuqri wazaif . and on pg no 475 it says in some ahadees and rawayat hy. but the hadees no or detail is not given,
personal experience es liya bataya that it will work
Peace Iraj,
As you said ke 'kuch hadith se rawayat hy lekin hadith number ya detail nahi di gai. Is se zahir hy k jo tareeka bataya giya ho woh hadith ke mutabik nahi hy :).
I did istikhara a few days back.i didn't get the clear results..i read at alot of places to follow your heart..at first i started going far from him but after messaging him that its all done..now everyday i feel guilty of my discion :( and its making me mad.. Plz help what should i do?
I was in a relationship.Wanted to know if he was ok for me or not? Or can i marry him? So did istikhara but now i have decided leaving him :) its all ok..My family will not accept it that is y i can't stay in it :)
Peace Tpervaiz
Guilt is different from knowing in your heart whether you made the right or wrong decision. Any serious relationship outside marriage is wrong anyway ... So to move away making space is the right thing to do ... Calling off a marriage is another thing altogether, but it seems you cannot marry him due to how you know your family will react.
The best thing to do is to advise him to bring his family over or contact your parents if they have not yet made contact and formally ask your rishta. Put the decision in the fate of how their coming to ask you for your hand will work.
It is not advisable to run away with him ... If that is what you are thinking of doing ...
It's not about knowing if he's okay for you or not either ... You obviously like him, that means he is okay for you ... The question is, could there be anyone better that lies in your destiny? Or could he bad for you later on? Any questions you need to clear up between him and your two families first ... Compatibility. You can of course pray for him and yourself to get married and for it to be successful ...
But ... Istikhara should be done in matters that you CAN choose, not can't ... If you can't then it is out of your hands anyway. And if that is case then just pray for consoling of your heart and finding another quickly as just a normal du'a.
istikhara is done in the presence of all knowable knowledge obtained and rationally decided upon then to put trust in Him. This istikhara is for your parents to do since it is their decision initially and your choice is already made ... The green light needs to come from them not in your dream ...
After getting your green light parental consent then you must do istikhara ... It is at that point you will get clear signs.
People ask the wrong questions all the time ... Parents need to look for signs ... and stylise their questions to be thinking deep into the future avoiding materialistic lines and focusing on character exclusively, material lines can be used as secondary measures or to decide between two similar rishtas.
As you said ke 'kuch hadith se rawayat hy lekin hadith number ya detail nahi di gai. Is se zahir hy k jo tareeka bataya giya ho woh hadith ke mutabik nahi hy :).
As you said ke 'kuch hadith se rawayat hy lekin hadith number ya detail nahi di gai. Is se zahir hy k jo tareeka bataya giya ho woh hadith ke mutabik nahi hy :).
Waise kiya ye book online read kr saktain hain?
Peace Lethal
The 7 (as in do istikhara up to 7 occasions) comes from an Authoritative Hanafi Fiqh Book of Ibn Abidin.
Although i cannot confirm whether the number is obtained directly from hadiths on Istikhara or not. It will be a solid position
There is no mention of "7 occasions or something similar to that" in hadith (as per my knowledge).
The jurisprudence of Sunnis is taken from Imams, scholars who know the Quran and Sunnah intimately well. Like being Hafiz e Quran and Hafiz e Hadith, of Sound Aqeedah and Intellect
Therefore its not always necessary that a command is present in Quran or Hadith like for like, but often it is done with the understanding of the complete Quran and Sunnah
To push everyone down the road of Quran and Hadith would be a mistake, since we are never going to fulfill the requirements of being scholars. And any negativity you may feel towards Muqallids should be held back because their fatwa comes a stronger source already
for example neither me or you know if it exists in Hadiths or not so neither of has the right to say it is in accordance with hadith or not
for your advice. However, I prefer to see references, if any, rather then just blindly taking it. I mean if somebody said something then he/she also provide the “evidence” as a “proof/in support”, otherwise I try my best not to pass something I heard, to others without any valid ‘evidence and/or proof’.
Guilt is different from knowing in your heart whether you made the right or wrong decision. Any serious relationship outside marriage is wrong anyway ... So to move away making space is the right thing to do ... Calling off a marriage is another thing altogether, but it seems you cannot marry him due to how you know your family will react.
The best thing to do is to advise him to bring his family over or contact your parents if they have not yet made contact and formally ask your rishta. Put the decision in the fate of how their coming to ask you for your hand will work.
It is not advisable to run away with him ... If that is what you are thinking of doing ...
It's not about knowing if he's okay for you or not either ... You obviously like him, that means he is okay for you ... The question is, could there be anyone better that lies in your destiny? Or could he bad for you later on? Any questions you need to clear up between him and your two families first ... Compatibility. You can of course pray for him and yourself to get married and for it to be successful ...
But ... Istikhara should be done in matters that you CAN choose, not can't ... If you can't then it is out of your hands anyway. And if that is case then just pray for consoling of your heart and finding another quickly as just a normal du'a.
istikhara is done in the presence of all knowable knowledge obtained and rationally decided upon then to put trust in Him. This istikhara is for your parents to do since it is their decision initially and your choice is already made ... The green light needs to come from them not in your dream ...
After getting your green light parental consent then you must do istikhara ... It is at that point you will get clear signs.
People ask the wrong questions all the time ... Parents need to look for signs ... and stylise their questions to be thinking deep into the future avoiding materialistic lines and focusing on character exclusively, material lines can be used as secondary measures or to decide between two similar rishtas>>
Thank u so much for such a long reply :) its all over because i know my family will never accept ..i told my mom and and she said leave him otherwise it will hurt you more in future..i left everything on Allah and trying to move on :) i m fine now and he'll be fine too..i saw no positivity in this rishta at all..i never realized that it is not good for me and that i have to stay away from all haram relations and i left it finally :) made me sad made me feel guilty but as the time is passing i m getting over it..and now i feel my decision is correct ..did istikhara i offered all 5 prayers alhamdulillah..Ask Allah to guide me and i put my trust in HIS decision..everything is going to be alright ..i love my family a lot even more than anyone else in this world and they are my world ..
.i don't want to that my relationship with my family gets disturbed because this !
Guilt is different from knowing in your heart whether you made the right or wrong decision. Any serious relationship outside marriage is wrong anyway ... So to move away making space is the right thing to do ... Calling off a marriage is another thing altogether, but it seems you cannot marry him due to how you know your family will react.
The best thing to do is to advise him to bring his family over or contact your parents if they have not yet made contact and formally ask your rishta. Put the decision in the fate of how their coming to ask you for your hand will work.
It is not advisable to run away with him ... If that is what you are thinking of doing ...
It's not about knowing if he's okay for you or not either ... You obviously like him, that means he is okay for you ... The question is, could there be anyone better that lies in your destiny? Or could he bad for you later on? Any questions you need to clear up between him and your two families first ... Compatibility. You can of course pray for him and yourself to get married and for it to be successful ...
But ... Istikhara should be done in matters that you CAN choose, not can't ... If you can't then it is out of your hands anyway. And if that is case then just pray for consoling of your heart and finding another quickly as just a normal du'a.
istikhara is done in the presence of all knowable knowledge obtained and rationally decided upon then to put trust in Him. This istikhara is for your parents to do since it is their decision initially and your choice is already made ... The green light needs to come from them not in your dream ...
After getting your green light parental consent then you must do istikhara ... It is at that point you will get clear signs.
People ask the wrong questions all the time ... Parents need to look for signs ... and stylise their questions to be thinking deep into the future avoiding materialistic lines and focusing on character exclusively, material lines can be used as secondary measures or to decide between two similar rishtas>>
Thank u so much for such a long reply :) its all over because i know my family will never accept ..i told my mom and and she said leave him otherwise it will hurt you more in future..i left everything on Allah and trying to move on :) i m fine now and he'll be fine too..i saw no positivity in this rishta at all..i never realized that it is not good for me and that i have to stay away from all haram relations and i left it finally :) made me sad made me feel guilty but as the time is passing i m getting over it..and now i feel my decision is correct ..did istikhara i offered all 5 prayers alhamdulillah..Ask Allah to guide me and i put my trust in HIS decision..everything is going to be alright ..i love my family a lot even more than anyone else in this world and they are my world ..
.i don't want to that my relationship with my family gets disturbed because this !
May Allah strengthen your emaan grant you goodness in both world Ameen
for second link. Gonna read it and will pass my comments. Tab tk Sabr Karo b’coz “Almighty Allah Sabr Karny waloon ke saath hy” 