Istikhara for Marriage

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Re: Istikhara for Marriage

@BigdaNawab

Here is a little bit of my wisdom on the question…if you benefit from it, its from Allah, otherwise its merely my personal opinion.

1. There are people I know who landed in a miserable marriage ending in divorce even though they did istikhara
2. There are thousands of people married happily life-long around the world who never did istikhara
3. Thirdly, Allah has blessed humans with special duas, prayers, special times, special days, special nights as best opportunities to draw near to Him and seek Him. Istikhara is one of those special gifts. If something must be in your fate, it must meet you in this life time. Any dua including istikhara can change fate. Only dua can. Which dua and whose dua, it is up to whim and wisdom of Allah alone

So with all these point, I think you are using istikhara as a tool. Istikhara doesn’t guarantee a dream, and it doesn’t guarantee anything accept when you move in one direction, you will ONLY continue in it with a settled feeling. If you are over analyzing and are simply irrationally cautious those are your own personal anxieties and istikhara can’t solve that problem.

At the end of the day, trust your heart and intellect, and those of your other family members. It will either happen all the way or fall apart somewhere along the way. Take the step, do not linger in doubt. Doubt is from Shaytaan.

good luck

most reasonable and comprehensive response I’ve ever read on the matter of Istikhara.
thank you.