No no no no..you got it all wrong, the american guys who go to russia to find a bride are those who cant land a good woman here .. they are not usually great catches or just dont have the looks or personality to find someone on their own, so they go to russia where women looking to get out of russia dn come to US for better opportunities agree to marry these men. I would be interested in finding out the stats of how many of these marriages last after the lady has her greencard and the marriage condition removed from it.
there is sumthing called regards and trust in others' originality, which i am sorry to say, u lack.
for the first time, Munza, of the posts and replies or comment on other and ur own and my threads, i have read, u sound so uninformed.
NO, THESE ARE MY very own scenarios.
hope is this helps us all in knowing we cannot be comfy, what if we are going to have closed minds and have to deal with these sort of situations, we should be able to enter every relationship with an open mind and improvise or lay some ground rules.
Anything i ever posted or do post is no one else's but my own.
i prefer it this way.
best
Dushwari
I hope that if you are getting these scenarios from some other website or publication, you have permission to copy and are giving credit in your posts.
at least u wont be a parasite - at least u know to propose some compromise.
best,
dushwari
clean his stuff too
*he dress nice, but won't press, *
buy him wash and wear and linen clothes
he drives with law in mind, but making illegal turns is ok in his books
get a driver, or drive yourself.
*does not know how to fold a table napkin *
dont ask him to fold his napkin..
*or brush his shoes *
buy him one of them automatic show shine thingies.
he can’t even keep his doctor's appointment
get him a PDA or a butler
*he does not keep the balance book straight, where as i am a penny-counter. *
Take over the book keeping responsibilities from him
*he cannot make the bed-sheets, and i cannot let one wrinkle be on them *
get twin beds.
*he leaves the TV on, i cannot see more than an hour. *
go polish his shos, do the book keeping, water the plants, make the bed, take out the trash when he is watvhing TV. he is not forcing u to watch TV, you should not force him to not watch TV.
and now for Pir Fraudias words of wisdom..
do couples not talk now? do they not know how to give and take? do they expect perfection from one another? do they expect the other person to lose their on personality and become a clone?
parting thought- some people will not be happy even if the clone themselves and marry their clone.
I hope you paid special attention to the end of my post..
do couples not talk now? do they not know how to give and take? do they expect perfection from one another? do they expect the other person to lose their on personality and become a clone?
In the end my view with any of life’s issues is
either you do something about it
or
you learn to live with it
staying in a state of flux where you are unhappy and complaining is not productive for anyone, and not good for your own peace of mind and sanity.
You can always do something about it. Saying "it's out of my control" or "there's nothing I can do to change the situation" reeks of a victim's mentality. You always have the option to leave a bad situation if you think it isn't going to get any better. If you have no education - go back to school, if you need money, get a job. Take some initiative to get out of a situation that isn't working for you, or be proactive and try to make it better.
Its always give & take.
If both have jobs then both need to work at home together - splitting their duties. while if one have a job then other need to work at home as much as possible because working out is not very easy. I mean, its very tiring, mental stress - have to deal with all different kind of people the whole day - a couple of them might be jerks too.
So why not try to keep it as simple as possible.
In pakistan, I know a lot of husbands help out at home now if their wives have jobs too. Besides in Pakistan working women usually have maids too. Husbands usually takecare of a lot of stuff in pakistan such as utilities, handling house related issues such as electricity work etc, auto work (how many females go to the work shop in Pakistan to handle their own car problems). while here go yourself and do the oil change etc. So don't compare these 2 lifestyles.
I think any woman who s a stay at home wife (no kids, not pregnant, not going to school etc) and her hubby works fulltime, expects him to come home from work, cook and clean and stuff sounds kinda lazy and selfish to me.
the Quality of ur appreciation, complete with curse words shows clearly what caliber you happen to be. u have nothing concrete and valid to contribute, then do not irk yourself.
Perhaps you should consider some of your own advice and compromise…heck maybe even accept some ground rules!
Thanks for pointing out what I lack. I’ll definitely try to improve. Meanwhile, perhaps you could focus your attention on why I pointed out what I did. When you sign the registration agreement to become a member of this site, you commit yourself to the copyright and plagiarism policies that are outlined within. Still, we, as managers of this site, are held responsible for the contents and if someone decides to post material that is not their very own, or without express permission and credit, we can be held liable.
So my dear…uninformed I may be…and backwards too cuz I don’t expect my husband to be domestic, however, foolish I am not.
My comment was to remind you of that policy as you are a new member.
There are may threads of your own, their level of contribution is self-evident and I do not care to point them out as an answer to your complaint against my postings.
Keep your taunts to your own self. You must not feel compelled to post on my threads.
I advise you to refrain from admonishing, without having researched or having a proof for what you are saying - whether it is true or not.
Perhaps you should consider some of your own advice and compromise....heck maybe even accept some ground rules!
Thanks for pointing out what I lack. I'll definitely try to improve. Meanwhile, perhaps you could focus your attention on why I pointed out what I did. When you sign the registration agreement to become a member of this site, you commit yourself to the copyright and plagiarism policies that are outlined within. Still, we, as managers of this site, are held responsible for the contents and if someone decides to post material that is not their very own, or without express permission and credit, we can be held liable.
So my dear.......uninformed I may be.....and backwards too cuz I don't expect my husband to be domestic, however, foolish I am not.
My comment was to remind you of that policy as you are a new member.
It’s been a while, I’m rusty and I’m bored…and you have time since the architect is busy with his drawings…so let’s do this.
It’s actually Muzna. But let’s not be picky.
Put your money where your mouth is dahling.
Point them out…actually, point one out that you feel is suspect in it’s originality.
You’re right. I don’t feel compelled. I am obligated.
Thanks for the advice.
Now can you please explain where I’ve admonished you? Was it in the first post where I expressed a “hope” or was it in the second where I informed you of why I expressed a hope?
Anxiously waiting…cuz it’s gonna be bedtime soon…and I hate to leave stuff undone.
opposites attract afterall i guess 
