issues of house holding & its head?

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hypothetical situation but it does happen with lazy, spoiled, immature Pakistani men who feel a sense of entitlement to live freely and not become a bit more responsible when they get married.

situation: okay, i am very clean and the husband is a total mess. i am extremely organized, and he is a clutter personified, he dress nice, but won’t press, he drives with law in mind, but making illegal turns is ok in his books, does not know how to fold a table napkin, or brush his shoes, he can’t even keep his doctor’s appointment, he does not keep the balance book straight, where as i am a penny-counter.

he cannot make the bed-sheets, and i cannot let one wrinkle be on them, he leaves the TV on, i cannot see more than an hour. he never waters plants, he avoids taking garbage out. he cannot visit his own parents - he has better things to do - what? lie down and play Tetris.

what a spouse will feel like: aye wey!

her thought for correcting her man: should i beat him in side out?

:>

what would u folks do if u had a spouse who did nothing but lived in the same house leaving all the work to u and not even be ready to socialize together with each partner’s family?

dushwari

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My dad doesn't do anything in the house and i mean nothing at all!! My mum does everything you name it she does it (she even washes his car!). She's been moaning at him for nearly 30years to help her around the house but he doesn't. I love my pops but i personally would go crazy if my husband had the same attitude! It's not easy living with a man like that.

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dushwari,

I hope that if you are getting these scenarios from some other website or publication, you have permission to copy and are giving credit in your posts.

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i would just stop taking responsibilty. eventually he would have to do something if nothing is being done. lol

once he starts then i will be more then happy to help grins

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You got me thinking now, because no sane person could come up with this @~&% on a daily basis, CALL F.A.C.T, CALL F.A.C.T!!!

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Yeah that’s my husband. I don’t expect him to do housework when he comes home at 9pm or after doing a looong day of work. I just hope the poor guy gets a good meal and a good night’s sleep. Marriage is pretty simple and easy if both partners respect and support eachother.

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There are many reasons why husbands die earlier than their wives. One of them include the constant mental and physical stress that is exerted on their bodies throughout their life in their quest to earn for their family and give them a comfortable life. So if you think men have it easy you need to rethink.

Apart from that I agree husbands should help out with the house more because that way they get involved with the family. It might also do their health a world of good.

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I'm with saima.
He's not expected to do anything so when he does (which is often) it's a bonus.

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oh mah LORD!!! that sounds EXACTLY like me! i’d get along really well with your husband :blush: we are royalty…

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lyrics from teh odd couple

No matter where they go they are known as the couple.
They’re never seen alone so they’re known as the couple.

As I’ve indicated they are never quite separated,
They are peas in a pod. Don’t you think that it’s odd?

Their habits, I confess, none can guess, with the couple.
If one says no it’s yes, more or less, with the couple.

But they’re laugh provoking; yet they really don’t know they’re joking.
Don’t you find, when love is blind It’s kind of odd.

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Khuda kay waastay exchange kar lein. Hamari roz roz ki jaan cHootay gee. Mein to din mein itni baar kulli bhi nahin karta jitni baar in mausoofa kay dhaagon sey takraata hoon.

:>

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^^^ :rotfl:

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true...if the guy is coming home at 9 pm he deserves to do nothing but eat well and sleep.

However minor things should be done no matter what. like picking up a bowl off the table and putting it in the sink or throwing the dirty clothes in the hamper instead of the floor. These things dont take much effort. Little things like this can really help a woman out when it comes to household chores. afterall keep in mind.... the wife will be taking care of the kids (once they have kids) that's a full time job as well.... and sometimes that includes the night shift.

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** i am very clean and the husband is a total mess. i am extremely organized, and he is a clutter personified, **

clean his stuff too

*he dress nice, but won't press, *

buy him wash and wear and linen clothes

he drives with law in mind, but making illegal turns is ok in his books

get a driver, or drive yourself.

** does not know how to fold a table napkin **

dont ask him to fold his napkin..

** or brush his shoes **

buy him one of them automatic show shine thingies.

** he can’t even keep his doctor's appointment**

get him a PDA or a butler

** he does not keep the balance book straight, where as i am a penny-counter. **

Take over the book keeping responsibilities from him

*he cannot make the bed-sheets, and i cannot let one wrinkle be on them *

get twin beds.

*he leaves the TV on, i cannot see more than an hour. *

go polish his shos, do the book keeping, water the plants, make the bed, take out the trash when he is watvhing TV. he is not forcing u to watch TV, you should not force him to not watch TV.

and now for Pir Fraudias words of wisdom..

do couples not talk now? do they not know how to give and take? do they expect perfection from one another? do they expect the other person to lose their on personality and become a clone?

parting thought- some people will not be happy even if the clone themselves and marry their clone.

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What if you have more than one wife? All wives and husband should work together as a team and every member of the team is also insaan- deserves respect!

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i agree....

But...keep in mind that women undergo a whole lot of mental/physical and emotional stress as well in their quest to be the best mother and wife. Having a husband that doesnt contribute much to the home other then making money doesnt make the situation any better.

i also agree with your point about men being more involved with the family when they help out in the home. It's def a way of developing bonds with your family members. you can also make chores a lot more fun when you use your creativity. :D

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well said angel eyes!

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how come all the gurls who think like this are taken? soo unfair - sadi wari ayee tay khail khatam?:mad:

TLK ( THE DIRECTOR )......................
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:rotfl:

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Isn’t this why American men go to Russia to find a young bride? They think there are no more traditional, stay at home types in America so they try to find it abroad. All the Russian women I know are working towards having the American dream after getting married and seeing everything available to them. (maybe slightly off topic,)

But I received a shocked reaction from an ultra rich Karachi family friend when he found out I cooked. He was like, “Wow, how domestic, you cook.” He said all his female friends in Karachi refuse to learn to cook or do any domestic chores. They absolutely hate it. I think however, that behavior is only limited to a small percentage of the Karachi elite.