Mentality difference…
Next time he says he will leave you, tell him do that if he calls himself a man.
Some guys take advantage of you. I came across one like that in my life. I mere told him that I could not marry him coz I do not feel for him the way I should and the way he feels for me. And believe me he hung up the phone saying he is going to shoot himself rite now. He not only hung up the phone but switched it off too. And I got sooooooooo worried and scared coz i thot he would really shoot himself. After an hour he switched on his cell but for first few calls he didnt pick up though it was ringing
so thats how sometimes these guys take advantage of you. He too never ever listened to me though he was always wrong. He wanted to achieve his targets in life at any cost, by hook or crook. He knew all the illegal ways of getting things done. And I would object on that. That was the main reason I could not get along with him. I am fair person and i want a fair person for me. He even told me to do Nikaah without telling our families. Later we will tell at home n families will have no choice but to accept our marriage…
Sorry i started my story here but beauty i dont know but your post reminded of that person. Coz I were in the same situation. Answering and giving explanation to him for every lil thing n he would get upset anway… small things would be a big issue…like Him: why are you in market at 9pm ??? Me: I had to pick up some grocerry, could not go earlier, came late from office etc. … Him: I guess you like to stay out at night. How many times I need to tell you not to go out after 7pm, i do not like it and you need to change urself. <<<<<< thats how he would treat me knowing very well that i was not the type of person who loves to do party outside all the time. I could nt make a signle friend here in 6 yrs. Still all that from him when we were not even engaged. I was not in Pak that i would understand his concern that its not good or kind of risky to stay out late evening. Here where I stay, there is alhamdulillah no such probs. I can say without any fear that UAE is one of the most safest places in world. There is no prob for a single gal to live here peacefully. No one can dare talk to you if you do not want to talk. I could not take that all with him and with greatttttttttttttt difficulty, we broke up at last ..
Oh and beauty i am not telling you to break up , its pure your decision and your situation must be very different from mine. May be ur fiance is more sensible. I was just telling about my experience
GOD while i was reading ur story i felt like i was reading my own except i got rid of him asap!!! He told me to do nikah with him w/o our families knowing and he would ocnstantly ring me an if i dint answer he’d shout so badly down the phone… I knew him as a friend b4 but the whole relationship thing only lasted about 2 months. When he approached me he approached me with the marriage only card and i was like wow! thats the only reason i ever gave him a go coz personally i dont get into bf gf relationships. For me he was more of a fiance, i had told my parents about him str8 away aswell and they wernt happy… another reason y i ended it.
Alhamdulilah… at that time it was so hard but now i look at it, Allah works im amazing ways coz now i have an amazing fiance (a proper one not like him)
If your guy is able to understand your situation and change from there then u shud try and give it a go if not then im afraid you may b stuck in a horrible one way relationship forever, so its totally your choice on how u handle him and the situation!!
Good Luck