Ume, Im not trying to be rude here but I dont see the logic in getting yourself killed when you have small children depending on you. Thats not jihad, thats creating even more problems where there werent any to start with. Thats leaving a widow and orphaned children behind with no father or support. Regardless, the point is simply to do what you can and nothing is too small or insignificant.
PS Think if your country is attacked who will go in a war to free the country if everyone starts thinking I have small children.I am not saying you go and fight for Palestine right now but if we lived in there then our husbands,fathers or sons need to go to fight for the freedom of their country.