He didn't say linger
He said the kaamwala is new
These boys are unreliable so until.he proves he's not going to do a runner or whatever husband wants to remain distanced. He said go if u want something but duppatta sai karke jao.
Everything is a hassle.I agree Islamically etc but I'm.not religious so for me its a hassle.
I can't help but feel that if you had enough sense to conduct yourself appropriately in the surroundings you are in, your husband wouldn't have had to say anything in the first place.
I've stayed with my inlaws when they had a teenage boy as a servant. Purposefully, he wasn't asked to do much in the kitchen and the tasks he was given were at times that no one else would need to go in there other than to get a drink sort of thing.
When ur hubby says dupatta sahi say lay ker jao, does he mean lapaitofy it like namaz or does he mean k bus galay say lipta wa (useless) na ho. And if it's the second one, and his family is conservative then don't u have to do that in front of ur FIL too? So u would be kind of used to it already? And ofcourse it's cumbersome to have one more person added to the list but hardly that big a deal. (unless ur used to having no dupatta all the time except when houseboy's in the house).
I can't help but feel that if you had enough sense to conduct yourself appropriately in the surroundings you are in, your husband wouldn't have had to say anything in the first place.
Hmm interesting advice. I think reach a compromise where both parties are happy with the outcomes :) What is the reason behind his decision? Is there reason to it? Look deep within yuo and you will find the answer. look to Allah(swt) and follow your heart you will be guided.
men in my family stay out of the way of the kaam wali..say she is cleaning the bedroom..they don't go there..if its time to clean the living room..they exit.
same thing applies to when the cleaning man comes in..we ladies leave the premsises too...
my mom has a cleaning man too....we wear dupattas when he is around. and leave the room he has to clean up.
Ah I have this new kaamwali and still I have to wear dupatta at home to make sure she does too. She’s divorced so she has no sharam hayaa covering herself up despite reminders. I am getting her new shirts stitched with insanoan wali neckline now
You reminded me of this maid hubby had when I met him. B/C of long hours, he didn’t have time for house work so she used to come 1x/week and do all the cleaning/laundry. I couldn’t believe my eyes when I saw her the 1st time. Jeans were waaay too tight and top was waaaay too low. That was her last time cleaning his house.
i am just a messenger...what i said is wrong/incorrect? the problem we have is that we try to fit Islam in our life style rather than fit ourselves in Islam.
there is a right thing and a wrong thing...we have the choice to follow whatever we like but we'll be held responsible for whatever choices we make. we may opt to sin, it will be our choice/convenience but it's NOT our majboorii...we may learn to do things ourselves our keep the servant away from naa-maHram, both male and female.
why can't brothers do the dishes? i help my Bhabhi!
technically u are na mehram for your bhabi. if we are talking abt this
tell me about it, I have been through ones with low backs, see through shalwars, wayy too long chaaks, and have gotten darker loser clothes made specially for them.
OMG, So true PT. So true. Dil ki baat keh di… I have had a maid who was like uff…… I had to direct her again n again ke apnay kapray theek karo… I really can’t picture her here Eventually, my too much restrictions made her leave the work. She was (wese bhi) filling my previous maid’s space.. she was on maternity leave. So I had to hire this new woman & that’s why I couldn’t stop her coming… but still, she was…
That was her last time cleaning his house. 