Muta is not dating it is temporary nikah , not allowed in sunni fiqh anymore shia fiqh allows it still. Now think about converting to shiaism ? There is no death penalty for conveting from shia to sunni or sunni to shia fiqh.
Yes after 9/11 most of those doors for desi guys got closed.
We are trying to figure out for kuwaras/kuwarees some guilt free way of finding their match to get married to.