Stop confusing yourself. You have a problem with the culture and tradition of these countries, and how some women are treated in these countries.
If islam taught us to treat women this way, my dear, all muslim women, no matter where they live, in america or in afghanistan, would be treated that way.
So re-phrase ur question. Islam is the most beautiful religion for me as a woman, afghanistan however, is not the country for me.
Culture and religion are two different things. Are afghani men true muslims??? Are they 100% momins??? They think they’re going to heaven by blowing themselves up and killing innocent people… what do u expect from these people???
Plz stop confusing yourself and stop associating whatever the hell is happening in afghanistan (and such countries) to islam.