**Pardah / Hijaab ** is necessary upon every woman who is close to the age of puberty or has reached it.Many complain that the Pardaah enjoined upon the Muslim women is far too restrictive and rigid and is in order to keep them inferior to men. Ignorance and misunderstanding can only be the cause of such beliefs. Besides Islam which other religions or nations have given homes full protection from exploitation from strangers? While at the same time guides women upon importance of purity and morality as well as upholding her status and dignity.
A woman is likened to a sweet creature everything about her is an attraction for spectators. Islam protects her by enjoining her to wear Hijaab so that covering herself does not attract the swamps of flies and dirty creatures attracted to uncovered sweets as in the cone of today’s woman who falls prey to this.
**LAW of Clothing or HIJAAB **
The whole body, except for the exempted parts should be covered.
Any veil which itself becomes an attraction is to be avoided. (like the fashionable abaya’s women use nowadays)
Garments should not be semi transparent.
Dress should not be tight fitting.
Garments should not be perfumed.
The form of dress should not in any way resemble that of men. (Jeans or Shirts)
It should not resemble that of non believers.
Garments should not reflect worldly honour. (i.e It should not be used to influence your wealth on someone)
It is not permissible for women to wear very fine and thin clothes i.e. muslin etc. as it is to go naked. Women have been required and directed to keep their body covered from head to foot. No part of her body should be exposed before a non-mahram (un-permitted person).
“The hijab makes for greater purity for the hearts of believing men and women because it screens against the desire of the heart.”
What about men! We must also make sure we don't stare at women! Sara Islam women key liye hai?
True and JAzakAllah what you have posted. Brother, the ground reality is that in Pakistan, men stare too much. Even these non-Muslims in West are better. Atleast they don't stare! So we should seriously think about men's behaviour.
In fact it’s just not in Pakistan, it’s every where.. women are compelled to be just part of men’s amusement and it’s fine in our society and in almost any society just because they are men? God forbid even it’s acceptable for most women too.
The bottom line is women need to learn that the highest level of attraction is to be attacted with respect and worthiness and for that Allah subhana-ho-wa’talah has shown us the right path.
Actually all over the world women are degraded in different ways. In the West they are maybe not stared upon as much, but are made sex symbols to enjoy. In our countries although Islam gives them so much respect but some of our people do not realize that they should not stare at them while walking in the street.
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*Originally posted by laeeqkhan: *
Actually all over the world women are degraded in different ways. In the West they are maybe not stared upon as much, but are made sex symbols to enjoy. In our countries although Islam gives them so much respect but some of our people do not realize that they should not stare at them while walking in the street.
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But the equal responsibility stays on the shoulders of women. They should continue to protect themselves and their bodies but applying the rules of Islam.
That entails that men should also stop staring at females. Walk down through any street in most Muslim countries - why do guys always stare and ogle as though you have two horns sticking out of your head? They should learn to guard their gaze, lower their eyes. That is also part of the modesty requirements for men.
More responsibility falls on the women because why would men stare at them if they have completely covered themselves with scarf abaya and all. When women have not dressed properly ..... that might be when men stare at women.
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More responsibility falls on the women because why would men stare at them if they have completely covered themselves with scarf abaya and all. When women have not dressed properly ..... that might be when men stare at women.
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That puts an awful lot of the responsibility on the women. Isn't it a weakness of the man (or woman) if he/she does things that are forbidden?. Is it the responsibility of a grocery store to hide all their pork products before a Muslim enters so as not to tempt him with forbidden things?
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**More responsibility* falls on the women because why would men stare at them if they have completely covered themselves with scarf abaya and all. When women have not dressed properly ..... that might be when men stare at women.
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i thought we had determined that it was equal responsibility.
Women who are dressed properly DO receive stares or glances. This is challenging for men to comprehend, but try walking in our shoes once in a while. i have visited some of the most conservative places in Pakistan, and i have dressed up accordingly. i'm not talking about swimsuit wear, i am referring to conservative traditional attire for that region. i am not stupid, i know what is considered conservative and what is not. They STILL stare. That's not my responsibility. i can only do so much. i'm not responsible for men who can't lower their gazes (unless i physically walk upto them and slap them, which i would like to sometimes come to think of it).
Consider it a higher form of jihad - men are fighting their temptation to stare at a woman. Guys should worry about their glances, and women will worry about theirs. Women aren't perfect either. Let's try to help each other, not sandbag additional responsibilities upon the other which the Quran does not even justify.
The responsibility is on both genders. I'm sure we've all read the hadeeth about the first glance.
If a country opens its borders and then expects no one will attack it, i'd say that their thinking is definitely corrupted.
Its not entirely a case of men not being able to keep themselves in check (attraction is a normal thing come on). The responsibility is more of the woman simply because she CAN make a change in herself and stop the guys from ogling, but its stupid of her to expect to change 100% of the guys around.. you get the drift?
.. i don’t get it.. how can the women stop guys from staring at them, when the majority of guys will stare no matter what the level of coverage of those women.
you guys are like blaming the victim for the crime… hey had you not left your door unlocked, we wouldn’t have robbed you.
PA I am in no way justifying that the guy who stares does the right thing. he’s a pervert and definitely scum. the woman CAN stop the guy from looking just by not giving him somethign to stare at?
You do lock your doors dont you? Even though what the robber does is wrong, you take your precautions and you keep the door locked.
Thanks for providing a good example. You can be so helpful at times.
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**Even though what the robber does is wrong, you take your precautions and you keep the door locked.*
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Yeah, but if a robber still breaks into your house and makes off with your jewellery, tv and stereo set - the police don't blame the owner of the house for the crime. They issue warrants for the perpetrator - as s/he alone made the conscious decision to steal and commit the acts. The owner can only do so much - just as women can only do so much. Sorry we can't make ourselves invisible, nor can we stay 365 days cooped in a room.
Khair. i agree with Ammarr's statement that, >>The responsibility is on both genders.<<
Thank You for sharing. that is good information.
.. i don’t get it.. how can the women stop guys from staring at them, when the majority of guys will stare no matter what the level of coverage of those women.