do anoy of u ladies have bf/faince/husband who doesnt want u to talk to friends too much .. like he thinks it will ruin your relation wiht him .. that they’ll tell you stuff that’ll cause fights and problems between you and him .. if so do you listen to him ? .. do you think this is weird or bad ?.. what type of guy would say soemthing like this in your opinion ? ..
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totally weird.,...
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Don't talk about what you and your friends say to him then.
its controlling though :P
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depends.... ARE your friends saying stuff about your hubby? are they telling you how to do things? Are they telling you how to behave with him?
if so.... whose controlling you? your hubby? your friends? or are you in control of yourself?
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no i dont really involve my freinds in my personal dealings with so .. he said that bcz one day he asked me what i did that day n i said i was tlakign ot my freind n then thats when he said that .. hes nice but he did say one time that you should just liten to my mom and me .. noone else
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I know of a person whose ex-boyfriend was exactly the same. (They recently broke up. It was she who took the step.) He used to be possessive, overtly obsessive, controlling and didn't like any of her friends. He didn't allow her to meet up with them or even talk to them too. She, blindly followed him and what he used to preach her; she ended up annoying and making angry a lot of her friends, including her good/best friends. In the end, before the best friends could tell her to step out of this controlling relationship, she took the step herself. IMHO there needs to be a balance. A guy just can't expect the girl to cut off from her friends totally for him.
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I know of a person whose ex-boyfriend was exactly the same. (They recently broke up. It was she who took the step.) He used to be possessive, overtly obsessive, controlling and didn't like any of her friends. He didn't allow her to meet up with them or even talk to them too. She, blindly followed him and what he used to preach her; she ended up annoying and making angry a lot of her friends, including her good/best friends. In the end, before the best friends could tell her to step out of this controlling relationship, she took the step herself. IMHO there needs to be a balance. A guy just can't expect the girl to cut off from her friends totally for him.
how are these two scenarios exactly the same?
you have just outrightly declared that the OP's husband is a possessive, overtly obsessive and controlling.. based on what ur friend went through?
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what kind of person that be??? umm... insecure. If its a husband, sorry, you are helpless now. If its a bf, I am afraid there isnt much scope.
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My dad is like this. He doesn't want my mom to have many friends or to invite/go out too much. My mom just listens to him but she's not really happy with him becuase of this. It's sad.
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In the first post, there is a question. Does any of you ladies have a bf/fiance/husband.... I don't have any of those, but I answered, because I know a similar case. Didn't even imply her husband is any of those things. Merely stated my experience.
how are these two scenarios exactly the same?
you have just outrightly declared that the OP's husband is a possessive, overtly obsessive and controlling.. based on what ur friend went through?
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do anoy of u ladies have bf/faince/husband who doesnt want u to talk to friends too much .. like he thinks it will ruin your relation wiht him .. that they'll tell you stuff that'll cause fights and problems between you and him .. if so do you listen to him ? .. do you think this is weird or bad ?.. what type of guy would say soemthing like this in your opinion ? ..
my bestest friend has her hubby like this IMO, because of him, two of us got seperated :( and I still miss her!!
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its not just because of the guy.. its also because of the woman who listens to the stifling demands.
If you don't let the person control you then you wouldn't feel so bad.
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My husband has never tried to control that amount of the contact I have with my friends or family members. Before marriage, even as my BF and then fiance, he never even hinted at it. Honestly, if he ever did…I’d probably just laugh at him b/c that means he’s lost his mind. Knowing my personality, he’s have to be crazy to even think that I’d let him control who I talk to. For the record, if there was a specific friend he had a problem with, I’m definately willing to listen to his concerns and reach a comprise…but I’m not open to him blindly dictating my friendships.
I think this is VERY bad. In my opinion, a guy who does is very insecure and has a need for control. He’s one of those “I’m right and I don’t want to listen to anyone else’s views” type of guy. I don’t know how long you have been married but in my experience, things like this only get worse with time. Trying to limit your friendships and contact with the outside world is one of the first signs of a controlling man. I used to date someone like this long time ago. I also have a very close friend who husband started this soon after their marriage (ie. telling her that she shouldn’t be friends with me and her other friends anymore etc.). She didn’t cut off her friendships but did decrease her contact with us. Well, it didn’t stop there. Things got progressively worse over time and right now, 5 years and 2 kids later, they’re going through a divorce.
Umm…so going by that…its not only your friends that he wants you to limit contact with and not listen to. If he said you should only listem to him and his mom (your MIL)…no one else…ummm…so that means he does not want to even listen to your own parents anymore or your siblings?!! Did I understand that right? 
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Hmmm...well...I'd put his mind at ease by letting him know that you don't really talk about him to your friends
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cocktail: He is 100% nut case.
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sounds dangerous to me. some guys can be like that, but to be honest, its a controlling trait, fuelled by jealousy and insecurity. all guys will feel (to a small extent) that you shouldnt talk as much to your male-friends, but trying to control contact with family and all friends is just absurd.
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I think it depends on whether he is a bf, fiance or husband.
If its a bf he's kinda nuts. Some girls listen to their bf's, ditch their friends, bf dumps them and then suddenly they are friendless.
With a husband you need to be honest with yourself; are your friends infact bad mouthing your husband? If they are you need to stop talking to them. Your husband's respect is now yours and vice versa.
Fiance is inbetween bf and husband in regards to this, depends on how serious you are with your fiance.
**We're getting married, ofcourse we're serious you idiot.
**This isn't always the case.
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a guy with a zanaana mind prolly........its usually the women who want men to stay away from friends..
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Um, yes very weird. Esp. if he says to only listen to his mom and him. It seems like he isn't open to others' opinions and believes only he knows everything. Also, very controlling. I sure hope he's your bf/fiance and not husband!
My husband doesn't care who I meet or hang out with, regardless of the gender. Same with me...because that's the basic foundation of a relationship - trust.
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What an insecure man!
Yes it's weird. My husband would never act like this and if he ever told me, which he never will, not to talk to my friends I'd think he's gone pagal.