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haha ahaa
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Dont worry kurrieh you'll be spending your life in the gulagh
Gulagh- Russian Prison :)
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nothing wrong with maintaining a certain lifestyle. I applaud you for at least being realistic about these things, too many women think that life is all hunky dory after marriage and then reality sets in and then they have an 'oh sh!t' moment.
a kali moti tindi girl demanding a beautiful chitta gora guy with long hair and patlaa ..
.. awesome
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If you think that you can't adjust your lifestyle by marrying someone from a lower class, that's fine. At least you're being honest about your requirements. If I were rich (hypothetical, not true :)) I wouldn't mind marrying someone from a middle class background as long as the family is good, the guy is educated, he works hard, and he can support a future family. But realistically, there may be differences in opinion/lifestyle... it all depends on the individual, their upbringing, and what they value. But it's best to be up front and honest about it beforehand.
I got called unreasonable and shallow because I said I expect to marry a man on the same financial level as me, if not higher. What I meant to say is that, I want to live the same kind of life I do now, with similar comforts and with the opportunity to extend those comforts (by working myself if I have to).
Am I being unfair when I say, I don’t want to downgrade my lifestyle?
wow... so sad... a Pakistani girl having to actually get a job and work? oh the tragedy. what is the world coming to. no, madam... you please stay off your feet. no girl should have to get a job and work for a living. we're not that beghairat yet.
interestingly most of the replies also seem to be about marrying an annuity that pays enough to support or upgrade the girl's lifestyle. it isn't so much about marrying a guy who makes the same kind of money as the girl since the underlying assumption there would be that the girl herself has a job as well. but the focus is on the girl not needing to get off her butt at all and just marrying someone who is rich enough to provide the same kind of lifestyle that daddy dearest provides.
no wonder our economy/country is so screwed. half the population's only goal is to watch Star Plus dramas and reenact them in real life.
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If a man thinks of marrying a woman for her or her family being rich as a strongest reason to marry her then he is a male Gigolo.
If a woman thinks of marrying a man for him being rich and not any other quality being stronger than him being rich,....then she most likely has no problem being up for sale.
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an educated lifestyle is/would be my only requirement. I pray and hope he and I both have respectable careers and value the money we may have. I cant to expect everyone to always have a certain amount of money, some people are recent graduates and it takes time to build careers. Marrying into a rich khandan i suppose is different, but we marry people not khandans.
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^ yes. :)
Am I being unfair when I say, I don’t want to downgrade my lifestyle?
yeah, very
yeah, very
Yes JK.
"As Madonna said............ "...............you know we are living in material world and I am a material girl"
few month later she goes “I want to keep my baby”
Off topic but that was good..
Should she have said: “I want to get rid of or kill my baby?”
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There was a guy I was talking to and I told him the exact same thing. I expected to live a life like I have been living all my life. He called me materialistic and basically stopped talking to me. I was reminded of saying this all the time and all I can say is if this started before marriage, what would it have been like after marriage?
I think there is nothing wrong with saying it but if you do then you have to be prepared for the consequences.
There was a guy I was talking to and I told him the exact same thing. I expected to live a life like I have been living all my life. He called me materialistic and basically stopped talking to me. I was reminded of saying this all the time and all I can say is if this started before marriage, what would it have been like after marriage?
I think there is nothing wrong with saying it but if you do then you have to be prepared for the consequences.
Good for him and you both.
If you are right then he was right too for not going forward.
I got called unreasonable and shallow because I said I expect to marry a man on the same financial level as me, if not higher. What I meant to say is that, I want to live the same kind of life I do now, with similar comforts and with the opportunity to extend those comforts (by working myself if I have to).
Am I being unfair when I say, I don’t want to downgrade my lifestyle?
no way you're not being shallow or unreasonable at all! this is your right!
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Let me add I don't think that class matters as long as he's honest, educated, and can support a future family. I think it's important for a girl to provide for the family and that it should not be his sole responsibility to be the bread winner. So many people start from nothing and build a life together. That's the fun part of starting a life together. However he should be made aware of where you would like your life to be at one point and I think that is one of the essential parts of being open and honest in any relationship.
in guys’ world talking about fine looking woman is never off topic. 
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I don't blame him for not going forward with it, it's his life too but there were other issues as well.
However I think there are some guys who think that girls are a certain way and they promise us the world. When you call them out on it and they hesitate then it's important to see that hesitation seriously.
True…very true! 
(I was talking about her saying keeping the baby though)