I appreciated you taking the time to post those references, but they have not ‘corrected’ my view because I have a hard time believing that the dead can help the living. Help should be sought from Allah alone, and in matters pertaining support, then support can be sought from the living (asking someone to make duaa, borrowing from someone else when in need, etc.).
And I do not believe I was generalizing, I was stating an observation. If I perceive it that way, then your contribution has played a factor in creating that perception, or I wouldn’t have worded what I said in that fashion. And of course I realize that you are much more learned than I am, and I pray that Allah increases me in knowledge to the benefit of others.