My experience in Pakistani culture is … If you behave with courtesy towards others, they behave with increasing authority over you … It is almost as if they expect to be treated harshly in order to give respect … Treat them nice and you get pressed more … Because they think must mein servant milgai hai … Milk it … Probably there is seem merit in helping out once ina while, but then while she is there she should ask for help from her nund also …